Will she marry me?
 

Does anyone know a romantic place to propose in Positano Italy?

Ed, you are obsessing. You already asked that on your other thread and received some good tips there.

There are more important things to think about re a marriage proposal other than the setting.

I echo those sentiments, and will go further:

If she wants to marry you she'll marry you even if you proposed stuck in an airport queue. You don't want to find such a "romantic place" that she feels pressure and couild make the wrong decision.

The above posters are right. You make your own romance. My husband and I got engaged at Dirty Frank's--any Philadelphian will tell you it's a total dive bar (but very cool at the same time) and to us, the place oozes with romance....

Hi ed,

I suggest that you hire a skywriter to spell out "Will you marry me" over the city.

Dirty Frank's?? WOW!! I haven't heard that name in YEARS!!! Yeah I used to hang out there too in my Philly days ;)

Not to hijack this thread but:)
http://citypaper.net/articles/031998/h&r4.shtml

Apparently there are now murals on the outside windows. Oh well.

I'm from Philly. Where's Dirty Franks?
Thanks.

This is from the website which chronicles the unfolding tale of our daughter's wedding...

"As Lindsey?s graduation from UNC drew near, Lindsey and Dan both knew that they wanted to spend their futures together. However, whenever Dan would ask about marriage, Lindsey would complain, ?You have to ask for real!? After a couple weeks, Dan realized that asking for real meant buying a ring, and one weekend when Lindsey went to Baltimore for a meeting for work, that?s just what Dan did. So, on Sunday, February 8, right after Dan picked Lindsey up in the airport, the proposal followed?in the car at Raleigh Durham Airport?s parking garage (aref="http://www.rdu.com/Parking/parking.html")! Despite all their previous discussions, it was a total surprise for Lindsey. They enjoyed a celebratory dinner at 411 West on Franklin Street, before returning home to inform their parents of the happy news."

So, best of luck to you... and whatever your choice(s), congratulations on your new life in marriage...

Best wishes,

Rex

To continue the hijacking, Dirty Frank's is at 13th and Pine. It's a one of a kind place...in the 80s, when we hung out there, it was a great mix of bikers, reporters, and locals. I lived at 11th and Rodman and my husband-to-be lived on Clinton Place, both a couple of blocks away.
And ed, apologies again for the digression!!

errrrrmm ... we were there around the same time -- I lived at 10th & Pine.

I thank all of you that know nothing about me for your analysis on my attitude towards proposing. I know it may sound like I am obsessing, but Tiffany is the most amazing woman on the planet and I just want the best for her. I already know her answer as we have talked about our future together on many occasions. I have never been to Positano so I just wanted to get some ideas as to the most romantic places. Grazie.

Hi ed,
I know nothing about Positano but a little bit about being proposed to.
I have a feeling that with all the planning and figuring the perfect time and place, when you are there, it will just happen.
Especially in such a beautiful place, there will be no end of choices for where to pop the question.
Best of luck~

After reading mgmargates gentle response, I looked through eds previous threads.
What I saw was a man trying to find information on hotels, restaurants and a romantic spot for a proposal, in Italy, where he has never been.
Since people ( ok, women mostly) post here daily wondering what to wear, why can a man not obsess a little over where to make a marriage proposal?
I am shocked to see so many Un Romantic souls on Fodors!
So, mgmargate, you already obviously have a grip, on something, we do not know what, but for the rest of us, I think we should be more helpful and remember how to be Romantic!
((L)) Thank you~Scarlett~ who is never too old to enjoy some cyber romance reading~

I agree Scarlet :) My hubby proposed at sunset on a private beach in the Cook Islands. He planned and thought about it for weeks before we went. I am soo glad he did. I am a hopeless romantic, so I am glad I have this wonderful memory.

I haven never been to Positano, but I think I would love to be proposed to on the beach overlooking something fantastic, or maybe on a sailboat on the ocean, or on our private deck over champagne overlooking the water.

Best of luck, and dont feel bad for over planning, your lady is lucky that you do!!

Jamie

Obviously she will marry you Ed. If you're not stuck on Positano, how about a beautiful spot on Anacapri? At Villa St. Michelle, there's a beautiful view of the georgous blue waters below from a column lined garden area with a small sphinx statue at the very end. The legend is that you can make a wish and rub the sphinx...maybe you can rub, make your wish and then pop the question right after. It's a really pretty spot and could be a romantic place to propose. Just a thought...good luck regardless of where "it" happens. Although from the female perspective, it's always nice to have a good story to tell when people ask (and they do ask!) My husband didn't do a great & romantic proposal...but I married him anyway! No regrets!! Trish

Ed, I think I have a photo of the location I could e-mail to you if you're interested. Let me know [email protected]

Ed, first of all I am the most amazing woman on the planet and very humble too, but I am sure Tiffany is a nice lady.

I still think you are obsessing and overplanning. What more do you want people to tell you about Positano?

Check out some of the photographs that Fodorites have taken of Positano and you will see that it is all nice and beautiful. What if the place you choose is underconstruction when you get there, you don't want Tiffany to watch you panic, do you? Just go with the Positano flow ed10s226, you can overplan and in Italy plans have a way of not working out like you hoped.

Thank you Scarlett. For your input and support. I know I can't go wrong on where I propose in Positano, so I will have a couple options but will probably just wing it and see how the night goes. I have been planning the proposal since Feb...got the ring (my mother's original from 40 years ago) and began researching all about Italy and even got someone to begin teaching me the Italian language.

Nocinonut...don't worry, I won't panic-that would be silly. I'm good at making adjustments. And I don't think you can overplan. I'm just going to more informed than the average person, and THAT is going to make this special event so much more memorable. The more you know, the better.

nocinonut, when you wrote
"in Italy plans have a way of not working out like you hoped"
you put your finger exactly on why I love to travel there!
Each time I have gone there with a detailed plan, things spontaneously turn upside down and land in the right place!

ed10s226, it's nice that you are looking to fodorites for suggestions, and of course, you can make detailed plans all day, if that's your pleasure, but I believe the moment you're seeking is such a private one, and will emerge at the right time wherever you are. True romance is within the heart, and doesn't depend on the place, or even the time of day. That said, you picked a lovely place in general to ask the question! The locals there have a saying: "For every shoe, there is a mate" (rough translation) and it sounds like you found yours, Best wishes to you both!

Ed,

I do not think you are overplanning or obsessing, you are a man who understands that your fiancee-to-be might want the moment of her proposing to be a perfect moment and I APPLAUD you for putting so much effort into this. Whether it turns out perfect or not, she will appreciate and remember the ALL that you put into it. She will be extremely flattered and feel very, very loved. :D

(this is so sweet and romantic - weep weep!!)

If she is Italian (or Croatian or any other nacionality), and you are the happy holder of a green card, then she will marry you.

Ed, the stage is not as important as the feelings.

I don't recall my second husband ever exactly proposing to me. One day we just kind of found ourselves before a court clerk denying we were harboring sexually transmittable disease. Then, my live-in lover shelled out the moola for the license and we went back to work.

Thirty days later, when the license had expired due to my duckin' and dodgin', he said, "You're buying the next one."

Which I did and, being the bargain hunter that I am, I did not waste my investment.

That was twenty-four years ago.

Croque Madame, Now THAT is romantic ((L))

Thank you Beatchick. She is just the most amazing thing that ever happened to me and she deserves the best. I want her to know this is probably the most important event in my life and I want to be prepared when I'm over there. It's not every day that someone wakes up to the woman of their dreams...I DO every morning. I'm giving her my mother's original ring from 40 years ago.

Awww ed, you will make me weep too :)
Sooooo Romantic !

Wishing you the best of luck, Ed!! @};-

I think she can't help but remember this moment!!

Well, whatever happened to Ed and his proposal?

Sea Urchin, Maybe ed10s226 was an inmate at Rikers Island at the time of his posting.

You will be in Italy. What more do you want? I still tease my husband about the way he propsed- he put no thought into it! But to this day, we still laugh & we couldn't be happier! :)

You could call the hotel where you are staying and have them decorate it with roses and candles & bottle of wine or champagne before you get there.