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Will Probably Cancel our UK Trip Next Month Due to Sick Doggie

Will Probably Cancel our UK Trip Next Month Due to Sick Doggie

Old Mar 12th, 2009, 09:16 AM
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travelfan1, Gracie also has Cushing's syndrome which means she already produces too much cortisol and that causes an excessive appetite as well as excessive panting. It hadn't caused too much problem with excessive thirst though -- not until we added the Prednisone.

Our former Vet didn't want to put her on steroids because of the Cushing's but the Vet we are now using, who specializes in geriatric dogs, felt comfortable trying the Prednisone since there weren't many alternatives left to us. I'm also disappointed in our former Vet for not suggesting the Adequan injections. I think if we had started her on them sooner rather than later, it might have helped.

I guess we all face heartbreaking choices with our beloved pets. I think we have made the right choice for us.
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 09:17 AM
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Oh Betty, I am so glad to have read this post. I am in a very similar situation. I have a 13 year old Mastiff (very old for a large dog), I booked our trip 6 months ago, with a heavy heart that I probably would not have my "baby" with us by then. Well, he had surgery and has really perked up and is doing better. Back in January I started to realize he probably would be with us and got an overwhelmingly sick feeling about what to do with him. Boarding was out of the question! I was not able to get excited about our trip and all planning came to a screeching halt because of the overwhelming feelings of guilt about leaving him. I had a constant sick feeling in my stomach. (I know, to all of you that don't think of your pets as family, it is just silly to you.) I asked family members if they would take him while we were away, but no takers... The thought of a pet sitter coming in twice a day seemed so lonely for him... I know these are his last months and started to feel like the trip was just a burden and a big mistake!! I have since arranged for my cousin to stay at our home while we are away. I now feel like he will be comfortable in his own home with 24 hour company. Now I can get back to planning our trip.

Maybe you could reconsider someone staying at your house. I understand your husband's reservations, but if you could find a co-worker, friend or relative that you could trust, possibly you could go and enjoy your trip. But then again if you feel like she may only have weeks, I would definitely cancel too! Doesn't it just break your heart to see them going downhill? Bless their little hearts!!
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 09:40 AM
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I completely understand why you would cancel and I think you are doing the right thing. No matter if you found the best facility or sitter, it would not be the same as you being there. I recently lost my beloved dog Riley to a very sudden illness. He was never sick a day in his 10 years. My husband and I spent every minute with him during his last 3 days and I would have never wanted it any other way. I could have never enjoyed myself on a trip if I knew he was sick at home. Best wishes to you and Gracie. May she go with peace and dignity when her time comes.
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 10:04 AM
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Doggma, I'm so sorry for your loss. It's good that he had such a healthy life for so long though.

luvlimoncello, that you for your input. I'm glad you were able to find someone you trusted to stay with your boy. But like doggma says, I'd just be too worried about her to really enjoy myself.

We don't really know how much time she has left. It's really an unknown. The vet says it sometimes takes months before you see the bad effects of the Prednisone. But at 15-1/2 yr old, other things could also come into play.
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 10:09 AM
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There are many of us who can relate to your situation. I also own a Golden as well. Honestly, I think if you went, you would have been thinking about her every single day so you wouldn't have had a great time anyway. Gracie's got a great dog-mom and at 15 years, you're very blessed! I hope she continues to do well on the Prednisone.
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 10:12 AM
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bettyk, so sorry to hear your Gracie is ailing. As a fellow animal-lover I can totally relate. I don't like leaving my dog (a 6-year-old Aussie) in the kennel even when he's perfectly healthy! My in-laws put their elderly Airedale in the kennel for 3 weeks last year and he had to be put to sleep only a few days after their return. His condition was not related to the kennel stay - in fact he usually perked up after a stay at the kennel - but I think they regret not having those last few weeks with him. The hardest thing is not knowing how much time you have left. Go with your heart - the UK will be there next year!
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 10:13 AM
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bettyk, I also, understand how you feel. Our precious Golden lived to be 16 and I wouldn't leave her for the last year of her life. We had always had a friend come and stay with her while traveling in the past but once she reached 15 I couldn't bear to leave her or leave that responsibility on someone else's shoulders. You will never regret your decision and the world will still be waiting for you.
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 10:28 AM
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It's so refreshing to read this and realize there are so many people that put their pets on their priority list. In the last couple of months in expressing my concerns to friends and family about leaving my dog, everyone's response to me was, "It's a DOG". No, he's been a loyal and loving member of the family for 13 years!
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 11:33 AM
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Betty, sorry to hear this. We have a 12 yr old golden, so I can definitely understand. Our has allergies so has been on prednisone often. She is definitely part of our family and I can no longer leave her at the kennel. She loves it, but I know she is more comfortable at home or with us so we try to take her with us as much as possible. Over Thanksgiving our friends even invited her as well as the rest of our family. She loved it, lol! I don't think you will regret delaying your trip. Our pets sure do find a way into our lives that we never could have imagined, in such a great way. Ours still thinks she can go backpacking with us, so we have to hide the gear from her when we are prepping, lol!
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 11:53 AM
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People and their critters! How lucky we are to have such wonderful furry ones in our lives.

luvlimoncello, I know people who are like you describe. I feel sorry for them in a way. These creatures give us EVERYTHING and ask for little or nothing in return. While I'm not one who tries to make my dog into a little "human", all she has to do is look at me with those big brown eyes and my heart melts!

I've always had great empathy with animals. It was always hard to watch TV as a kid and see some bully picking on a poor dog or horse! Of course, even now when I understand that the poor animal is not REALLY being abused, in my heart I know that many unfortunate ones ARE and it breaks my heart.

If only all dogs could have wonderful homes like ours do!
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 11:54 AM
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I'm also surprised to see how many Golden Retriever parents there are! Aren't they just the biggest bundles of joy ever!
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 12:29 PM
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luvlimoncello - people who say "it's a DOG" usually haven't been lucky enough to have one. They also tend to get annoyed when you say things like "it's just a KID" to them.
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 12:29 PM
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I'm sorry to hear your news bettyk - I know you've been looking forward to your trip very much. But you are doing the right thing. If you did go you'd spend a lot of your time worrying and wouldn't enjoy yourselves quite as much as you would if you weren't worrying and missing your beloved furry family member. As you say, you want to spend as much time with Gracie as you can and it's good that she is having a rally right now. So enjoy the time you have with her. England won't be going anywhere!

I so agree with you luvlimoncello - I get furious with people who think I'm silly for loving my pets as much as I love any other family member (actually more in some cases. My pets have better hearts than some people I'm related to). It's very very heartening to find so many on here who love travelling but are able to put it into the right perspective when it comes to the big picture.
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 02:11 PM
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Thanks, taggie. Yes, we were looking forward to this trip as we haven't been on a European trip since Sept. 07 due to my MIL's health issues. But that's the way life goes sometimes.

Hopefully, we still have a few more trips in us!
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Old Mar 12th, 2009, 02:26 PM
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What a heart warming post. Please do not think you're not doing the right thing by staying home.
Any pet lover totally understands your situation.
Lovelimencello expresses my thoughts exactly to your situation. Enjoy the time you have to share with your precious Gracie. Your travels take a back seat to her! I hope things are peaceful for everyone when the sad time does come.
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