I'm not a sap, or maybe I am, but I'm curious, too. Kind of soap opera-ish.

JaneyGirl: Romantic, Fling, Platonic? Will you continue to see each other more often?

Consider it kind of a "cultural exchange" of sorts! Another aspect of a culture explored. Men have been doing for centuries.

Of course, go for it<BR>Of course, use a condom<BR>Of course, call ahead.<BR><BR>Let us know the details!

Of course murat has no regrets--he got a green card

More details to come in future installments of my Paris trip report but, in general, it was a great trip with very romantic moments. I'm sure we will continue our contact. He's making plans for a visit to my hometown and I will surely be returning to Paris. <BR><BR>Beyond that, I don't know where this will end up. Right now, it is a very comfortable, happy, fun, easy relationship.

Wait a minute, I am getting mixed up here with this soap opera. Is travelgirl the same as janeygirl? When did the switch happen. Is janeygirl just writing on travelgirl's thread?<BR><BR>

Ok soap fans...<BR><BR>Travelgirl posted first then janeygirl responded with her own story as encouragement. <BR><BR>Then! someone got curious and wanted janeygirl's story so she shared, but just a little bit - like a good soap cliffhanger.<BR><BR>Back to the vodka...

Was our old friend Lucy from the Italian affair with them? <BR>Sounds like a lot of fun going on in that ole Europe!

Well my trip romance turned into something a little more then just a fling. I met someone in England when I was 18--we kept in touch and things got a intense over time. Finally when I was 21 I went back over to Europe and he came and met me in Paris. It was all very romantic and cheesy. When I came home (canada) from my holiday, he flew here two weeks later and then I went there a couple of times --it went on like this for quite a few months. When I bought my plane ticket and work visa to move over there for a summer--he dumped my ass 3 weeks before I was to leave! So my advice-call him--have a smashing time but don't go and do anything silly like fall in love! It will just get complicated.

Zut alors!<BR>I am sorry to hear that.

OK.. I have a different perspective. Once... a long while ago when I was single and in my early 20's while backpacking I met a drop-dead Irish lad..and had a rather intense 4 week romance. <BR>I had to return home eventually and we wrote back and forth (before email) for a while.. yet gradually drifted apart. I started seeing someone else. Imagine my surprise when he showed up on my doorstep 4 months later!!! Wow.. try explaining that one to my new boyfriend. OUCH... in retrospect I feel terrible about the poor Irish guy (where ever you are I hope you are rich, happy and having a great life). But he should have called ahead, I would gladly have explained the situation. He ended up staying at my parents house for about a week, until he could get a flight home.. boy he was one depressed guy.

oh god--how awful Thyra!! I think your situation is worse then getting dumped!! <BR>

What is this "true confessions" where is Sally Jesse. No more old flings with Europeans please. Just go and call him first Travelgirl. The rest of you take a cold shower.

Wow, didn't think this thread would bring out so many comments and advice, guess lots of people have been in my shoes : ) No, I'm not Janey and I'm only posting as travelgirl in this particular thread. But in the interest of (semi) disclosure, I post under a different name on the Fodors board regularly. Thought this was one of those "anonymous" topics that warranted it. Well, thanks for everyone's advice!

To the anonymous travelgirl;<BR>You have indeed received many replies and very soon i imagine. Let me tell you that if i was in that guys shoes (without any other relationship or anything) i would be more than pleased to hear from you, considering you parted on very good terms i presume....<BR>Just do it....and remember that we men are very soft at times and this sort of thing we would appreciate!!

<BR>I was on holiday in London, met a very charming and extremely handsome Scot. (Think Liam Neeson)<BR>We began a very intense relationship. So intense that we even spoke of me not going back home. Reality set in however and I returned home 10 weeks later. We kept in touch with email and phone calls.<BR>I returned a year later. The genuine caring was still there but the intenseness was gone. I am glad I returned to see him. I am sad I returned and that the romantic visions are gone. We will always remain friends. <BR>But I also wonder what would have happened if I had orginally stayed on?

"My Story": Friend of mine was in a similar situation.... but stayed on.<BR>To make a long story short, my godson's parents have been married for 37 years.