Travel romance - should I revisit or just enjoy the memory?
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Travelgirl: You don't threaten me. You sound like a lot of fun, if you know what I mean. However, I would note that if you were truly an independent woman who takes control of her love life you wouldn't be seeking advice from anonymous strangers on the internet. Nevertheless, go for it. May you have one in every port! Just make sure he wears protection.
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Call him first. His new romance might not like you showing up on her door. Give him some notice, it is better manners, if you care about his feelings at all.
Remember it is not all about you, his feelings count too, even if you are a liberated woman.
Remember it is not all about you, his feelings count too, even if you are a liberated woman.
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Whatever you do - keep us posted. It's not fair to have a fun post like this and not hear the results - not that we want ALL the details but sounds like a good movie plot.
And if I was you, go see him! Even if it is just for coffee, you did stay in touch with him for awhile.
Good luck!
And if I was you, go see him! Even if it is just for coffee, you did stay in touch with him for awhile.
Good luck!
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Those Italian men...ahhhh
I just had a fling a month ago in Florence...am still thinking about that glorious romantic escapade! Kind of hard to stop thinking about him since we are still text messaging back and forth via cell phone. I am going back to Italy in October for business and he SAYS he is looking forward to seeing me then...but who knows...
I completely understand your apprehension though...wanting to see him, but afraid of how it will go once you first see him again. I don't know if I really want to go through with seeing my Italiano man again...afraid it might ruin my wonderful memories of him, and am not completely convinced that he actually REALLY wants to see me again. Nerves I guess!
Is there a public area where you are sure to "run into" him? (Does he work at a restaurant or some other public place?) I would try that, rather than going to his home.
You really have nothing to lose. Worst case scenario is that he is married and you have to experience a couple awkward minutes. If that won't upset you or ruin your holiday, then go for it!
I just had a fling a month ago in Florence...am still thinking about that glorious romantic escapade! Kind of hard to stop thinking about him since we are still text messaging back and forth via cell phone. I am going back to Italy in October for business and he SAYS he is looking forward to seeing me then...but who knows...
I completely understand your apprehension though...wanting to see him, but afraid of how it will go once you first see him again. I don't know if I really want to go through with seeing my Italiano man again...afraid it might ruin my wonderful memories of him, and am not completely convinced that he actually REALLY wants to see me again. Nerves I guess!
Is there a public area where you are sure to "run into" him? (Does he work at a restaurant or some other public place?) I would try that, rather than going to his home.
You really have nothing to lose. Worst case scenario is that he is married and you have to experience a couple awkward minutes. If that won't upset you or ruin your holiday, then go for it!
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As a married man, and perhaps a little out of touch, I am curious by all the encouragement or similar experiences identified here. With the whole aids thing, I thought flings had become a bit passe' (if not downright dangerous). I am also a little suprised by the apparently widespread desire (or at least curiosity) expressed here for a physical encounter with near strangers, without any relationship contemplated. I wonder how many single, female travelers are open to the idea of the no strings attached fling. Kind of flies in the face of some stereotypes.
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Married....
Only with an Italian man...only then is it worth it.
Italian men - there is no substitute.
Besides, really can't help yourself when in Italy...the men are just that attractive and charming. I never had a "fling" in the States...only in Italy. Just relationships/boyfriends in the States.
(Safety is always a priority.)
Only with an Italian man...only then is it worth it.
Italian men - there is no substitute.
Besides, really can't help yourself when in Italy...the men are just that attractive and charming. I never had a "fling" in the States...only in Italy. Just relationships/boyfriends in the States.
(Safety is always a priority.)
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Go for it Travel Girl. Otherwise you will never have answers of your questions. However give him a ring and feel his affection...
15 years ago when I met my wife she was a tourist in my town. I met her last day of her trip altough she was staying in the Hotel I worked. we went to a restaurant with group of friends.That was it.
But plane did not take off due to weather conditions and we went out few times. No, we did not sleep together that time.
Afterwards we phoned eachother and send lots of letters, next year we were married.
Unfortunately we are devorced now but we are very good friend and we have a wonderful boy of 9.
I am Turkish, she is Dutch... No regrets.
The stories we lived could not fit in a book.
Go for it and good luck
15 years ago when I met my wife she was a tourist in my town. I met her last day of her trip altough she was staying in the Hotel I worked. we went to a restaurant with group of friends.That was it.
But plane did not take off due to weather conditions and we went out few times. No, we did not sleep together that time.
Afterwards we phoned eachother and send lots of letters, next year we were married.
Unfortunately we are devorced now but we are very good friend and we have a wonderful boy of 9.
I am Turkish, she is Dutch... No regrets.
The stories we lived could not fit in a book.
Go for it and good luck
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I think there is a double standard on this board: If a man writes about finding companionship/romance/sex on this board, he gets criticized or suggestions that he pay for it in Amsterdam. Here we have women encouraging each other to find a man for a fling while on holiday. Kind of a double standard and, as Married Man noted, that standard is kind of contrary to the typical thinking that men, but not women, can get away with loose behavior.
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I just returned from Paris last night (and will be posting a trip report soon). I made the trip to visit a man that I met a year ago there. We've been emailing weekly since then but I was still uncertain about exactly what expectations to have about the kind of relationship that was developing (romantic, platonic, just a fling?).
I decided that, regardless of the type of relationship we ended up having, there was no way to lose in this situation because I enjoy his company so much.
This is something that I've never done before but I am so very happy that I "seized the day" and plunged in. This was, without a doubt, the best experience I could have hoped for. I say, go for it but let him know ahead of time that you plan to be in town.
I decided that, regardless of the type of relationship we ended up having, there was no way to lose in this situation because I enjoy his company so much.
This is something that I've never done before but I am so very happy that I "seized the day" and plunged in. This was, without a doubt, the best experience I could have hoped for. I say, go for it but let him know ahead of time that you plan to be in town.