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right decision about canceling italy trip?

right decision about canceling italy trip?

Sep 21st, 2001, 12:08 AM
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I'm leaving for Italy on Oct. 22nd. There is no way in hell I will cancel it because of cowardist bastards who kill innocent hard working Americans.

I've always felt that when I travel I am representing my country and I feel that way now more than ever. There isn't much I can do to help other than give blood and donations and I feel going on my trip is important to show that Americans can't be scared and will not be intimidated.
Sep 21st, 2001, 01:11 AM
Momma C.
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Saw my husband off yesterday to Europe and profoundly wish he weren't gone, less because I expect another suicide hijacking -- although one can't rule it out -- and more because of the escalation of rhetoric and military mobilization that might leave him stranded. He went for work, but frankly I don't think the meeting was worth the risk. Obviously he did, and, no, we didn't fight about it -- what would be the point, esp. if something awful actually happened?

It's not a comparable situation to the Gulf War, because the airlines industry is already completed transformed such that European carriers are reducing transatlantic flights and show signs of being willing to shut them down at a moment's notice. That leaves US carriers, who are shell-shocked already. The flight crews I saw in the airport yesterday looked grim and haggard.

I hate the idea of him there and me and our son here if things get even dicier than they are already. It's hard to know where the line falls between practical prudence and traumatized imagination, but if terrorists strike again, it's entirely possible they will do so in a completely different way. I hear BBC radio here in the states, and some experts were talking about suicide-bombing of a major Western city with a nuclear warhead is a good possibility. Others here are whispering about chemical/biological attacks on large metropolitan areas.

I may be losing it, but neither seems far-fetched, given the sophistication and determination of these people. And I have to say all the military hardware we're sending to the Middle East seems mostly for our own comfort but otherwise dangerously irrelevant.

Everyone is reacting differently to the situation, but I know I'm not alone in thinking it crazy to leave small children behind in such "perilous" times. The odds are probably not against you, but for some of us who were personally touched, even at one or two "degrees of separation" by the attacks, it's unthinkable.

From a number of the posts on this and the US board from die-hard travel afficionados, I suspect it may not come through to our European readers just how deeply affected, and worried, a great many Americans have become. But if you could see the ghost-towns that our airports have become, you might begin to get the picture.
Sep 21st, 2001, 01:14 AM
Momma C.
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By the way, my point re:alternative modes of terrorist attacks was partly that they could happen in Europe as well as the US -- by "Western city" I meant that, not a West Coast American city.
Sep 21st, 2001, 07:11 AM
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I've also cancelled my October trip to Italy. Thanks to everyone who helped me at Fodors.com. I've posted a couple of questions over the last couple of weeks and you all have been terrific. Maybe in 2002? I agree with Neil. It's simply not worth the risk at this point. Firenze, Roma, and Venezia will have to wait.
Sep 21st, 2001, 07:25 AM
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My husband & I are supposedly going to Rome in early Nov. for a 10 yr. wedding anniversary trip. My in-laws are supposedly watching our 3 yr old & 1 yr old daughters in our home...

I just don't feel that I can go & risk getting stuck there(or worse.) My husband says that we're going. I just don't think that he's come to terms with the prospect of cancelling. We both were so looking forward to this trip & he really needs a break from work. We haven't cancelled yet...we are going to wait a few weeks.

Momma C., you said it well.
Sep 21st, 2001, 07:49 AM
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I too have a trip planned to Italy with Monica (a fellow fodorite) and am very concerned. The wind is definitely out of the sail. With the economy tanking and company lay-offs, its very scary. My company has had two rounds of layoffs, one happening on Wednesday of this week. Will I get stuck in Italy, I can think of worse things. But its the risk and the inconvenience of it all. Will I have a job when I get home? Plus, most of my family is from and lives in NYC, and that is always on my mind. Many questions, with no answers. Will have to wait.
Sep 21st, 2001, 08:09 AM
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I am going to Paris and Spain for 10 days over Thanksgiving week. I live in NY and i am still going We can't let them control our lives We must keep our freedom to live the american dream if we sit home and hide they win !This is what they want we must carry on and go on with our lives we can't . change the past But we can change the future We must over come and show to the world that we are strong and not lie down! take a stand resume your freedom !and god bless the people who have perished and the people who will keep or freedom !
Sep 21st, 2001, 08:24 AM
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I am going to England next Friday to visit my husband's mom. I am nervous, but truthfully reading this thread made me more nervous. He wants to go - so that is that. I live in Manhattan, and I need a break. I have yet to leave the city since this happened. I'm still in shock and of course if it can happen here it can happen anywhere and at anytime. I cannot just sit around and wait. We are supposed to go off from the UK to Paris for our last 4 days. I actually hope we can. Regards

Sep 22nd, 2001, 11:30 AM
Steve and Marlene
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I have been very moved by people's anguish of whether to cancel or not to cancel. We fly to Rome on Oct. 1 for three weeks in Italy. And we're going, damn it! I have the utmost respect for all the views regarding the recent tragedy in NY and DC; my opinion is that such events make it more paramount that, after we render what assistance we can, we then live our dreams with confidence. I have been dreaming of Italy all year. I've sent a check to the Red Cross and I have donated blood, and so to Italy I will go. Many people are distressed by the idea of getting "stuck" in Italy. I respect the commitments they must have back home; but for me, getting "stuck" in Tuscany might not be such a tragedy! I know now 3 weeks won't be enough; if my stay is involuntarily extended, don't worry, I'll find plenty to do!
Sep 24th, 2001, 01:13 PM
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My boyfriend left for Italy the other day for business and I'm meeting him there later this week. The week preceding his departure was pure hell (he was supposed to leave Sept. 15 but, at my urging, postponed to the following week). I didn't sleep until he called to tell me he was safe. But, he did call and I'm still going. The decision to get on with our lives was difficult, but one that I'm comfortable with. We're spending a week and a half in Florence and I'm so excited I can hardly get anything accomplished. Rachel, believe me... I almost cancelled my trip. Your decision was the best possible one for you. And Italy will be there when you decide you're comfortable to fly. If it helps you sleep at night, then there's no reason to second guess it. I wish you all the luck when you go!!
Sep 24th, 2001, 05:44 PM
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My daughters friends just came back from London and Paris..they had a good time, people came up to them and gave offered condolences - the planes were not full and the service was great..And..when your airline cancels YOU in another country-they pay for you to stay-until they can get you home.We are leaving in Oct-
Sep 24th, 2001, 06:24 PM
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I was in italy from 9-10 till 9-22. the longest 12 days in my life. Being a NYC firefighter, lost alot of friends in the world trade center. Italy is not to nice to their American tourist. They just don't give a damm. Hotels were crowded, stuffy, nasty. Pick pockets are all over Rome. I would play it safe and stay in America. Go at another time when things get safer. The security on airlines were Fair....got to stay safe ....stay home and support the american ecconomy.
Sep 25th, 2001, 02:55 AM
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I am also cancelling my trip to Europe for now (was due to leave next Thursday). In my mind, there is far too much uncertainty in the world situation to travel at this time. Yes, I will lose some money, but I hope to gain some sleep. (I have literally worried myself sick over this.)

The thing that amazes me is the complete polarization of views on this question. Responses to me have ranged from "Why wouldn't you go? There's no trouble over there." through to the extreme of "I wouldn't go anywhere for the next 5 years!" So in the end, it came down to doing what felt right for me, without wanting to put family through unnecessary worry as well.

Sure, nothing may happen. And I hope for all those people that do decide to go that nothing does. I just know I will feel a lot happier re-scheduling my plans for once things have settled down some, as I hope that they will in the months to come.
Sep 25th, 2001, 06:44 AM
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I completely understand your feelings. I, too, live in NYC and am still struggling to recover. I worked at 7 WTC -- now a pile of rubble -- and was downtown, on the street, as the attacks occurred. I only tell you this so that you know that I truly understand.

My husband and I were planning to leave for Italy on 9/15. We had been planning the trip for months and, in fact, it was to be our first anniversary. We decided to cancel, less for fears about our security, and more because we simply didn't feel "festive" enough to go. My husband said simply, "can you see yourself sitting in a sidewalk cafe in Florence, drinking wine?" Neither of us could. On the other hand, a trip away to think about something else might be therapeutic to you at this time.

Unfortunately, only you can know what is the best decision for you. Good luck to you with whatever you decide.
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