Reciprocal splurges
 

So while in Paris, I can not bear to miss lunch [even] at Taillevent. And plan to drag my friend with me- with her understanding. And she wants desperately to go to the Lido for a chanpaigne review. I'd love to hear your thoughts- -

Hi dd,

You go to Taillevent. She goes to the Lido.

Compare notes afterward.

((I))

My thoughts are that friends often do things for each other, to compromise, because they are friends and just to share company, even if it isn't something they would choose themselves.

so?

My friends and I usually do not do expensive things when we go to things that we wouldn't choose ourself, just to please someone, though. My idea is if something is really expensive, it should be something you really want to do. However, if you are on vacation together, that does kind of make it a different story and then it makes sense.

Ira has an odd view of friends going on vacation together. I agree if it were just some museum outing during the day and one wanted to go shopping instead, but the Lido especially is a nighttime activity you wouldn't want to do alone, and lots of people would feel the same way about an expensive lunch. Not me, I think lunching can easily be a solo activity.

As for whether it is right for you to force her to spend a lot of money for lunch -- depends on your income levels.

Can you treat her to lunch, while she pays for the Lido evening?

great idea, Phyllis! But there is only 20E difference- I guess I'm going toward the thoughts of Christina. As friends, to compromise. It is a budget buster, I hate to think. Her budget is a little larger than mine, but I'll suck it up. The whole trip was my milestone birthday present to myself, and I am glad she decided to come along.

I am with Ira :)

C remarks,
>Ira has an odd view of friends going on vacation together.

Well one wants to spend at least 70E on a lunch that the other won't enjoy, and the other wants to spend at least an equal amount on a show that the one won't enjoy.

What is so odd about splitting up?
Not to mention saving $100 pp.

>As for whether it is right for you to force her to spend a lot of money for lunch...

And for her to force the OP to spend 90E on the Lido?

((I))