My lunatic sister in law is marrying a virtual stranger in Venice. Do I have to go to the hen night in Barcelona as well?
May 18th, 2004, 12:51 PM
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Who knows if it's formal (I'm quite sure the bride hasn't had time to work that one out yet). So, so far, I'm planning on a "it should have been me" t-shirt. Good move? Bad move?
May 18th, 2004, 01:01 PM
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All I could think about when I read this was <i>Venice and Barcelona at the end of July.</i> Sheesh, couldn't they think about Bergen?
Ya gotta go - maybe we'll pass the hat for the dry cleaning bill.
Ya gotta go - maybe we'll pass the hat for the dry cleaning bill.
May 18th, 2004, 01:02 PM
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Blacktie, you're right, I DO love weddings, and if there's no champagne, I'm not going.
I know it's not the italian thing, but heck, I'm British, so I'm going to wear an ENORMOUS hat to outshine the bride, and to hide my dagger stares.
I know it's not the italian thing, but heck, I'm British, so I'm going to wear an ENORMOUS hat to outshine the bride, and to hide my dagger stares.
May 18th, 2004, 02:28 PM
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Tell her you'll gladly go to Barcelona, because if she insists that you be there, she'll be willing to pick up the air & lodging bill. The chick sounds like a loser to me, but I guess she knows how to party...
May 18th, 2004, 02:34 PM
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Dear Gentle Reader,
Since you will be in Italy, it is mandatory that you attend the wedding of your fiance's sister.
It is not necessary for you to attend a "hen party" in Barcelona as well.
The polite thing to do is to explain that you are already taking tie off from work to attend her wedding and that you cannot also go to Barcelona, as much as you might like to.
Miss Manners
Since you will be in Italy, it is mandatory that you attend the wedding of your fiance's sister.
It is not necessary for you to attend a "hen party" in Barcelona as well.
The polite thing to do is to explain that you are already taking tie off from work to attend her wedding and that you cannot also go to Barcelona, as much as you might like to.
Miss Manners
May 18th, 2004, 02:59 PM
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I don't know what Blacktie is talking about. This is not a sitcom episode. It is your vacation time that you work hard for and deserve to enjoy. If she booked the arrangements that quickly without consulting anyone's schedule, she is not placing any value on your time. Send your regrets and a quality but modest gift, not money. And don't sweat it. She can't hijack your vacation if you don't let her. I feel badly for her, but how will YOU feel if you bend yourself around like a pretzel and she doesn't go through with the ceremony? Spend your free time on travel guides, not guilt! You're okay by me.
May 18th, 2004, 03:26 PM
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Kate;
Wow, did someone win the lotto? Italy the end of June, Barcelona mid July and Venice the end of July! I am jealous that anyone would have enough time off from work to swing this type of schedule last minute, not to mention the cost of last minute airfare. If she is paying I would go, if not, I would rather spend my vacation time and money where I choose to go. Whatever you do enjoy your trip to Italy.
Clea
Wow, did someone win the lotto? Italy the end of June, Barcelona mid July and Venice the end of July! I am jealous that anyone would have enough time off from work to swing this type of schedule last minute, not to mention the cost of last minute airfare. If she is paying I would go, if not, I would rather spend my vacation time and money where I choose to go. Whatever you do enjoy your trip to Italy.
Clea
May 18th, 2004, 08:32 PM
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If it were me, I'd be honest. Tell her you'd love to go... for her anniversary party in a year or more. I
once had a friend who had more then her fair share of marriages. Last time she invited me to her wedding I told her I'd go to her 10th anniversary. Predictably, she didn't even make it to five.
Why would you waste your time? Unless you just wanted to go to Barcelona. And who could blame you?
once had a friend who had more then her fair share of marriages. Last time she invited me to her wedding I told her I'd go to her 10th anniversary. Predictably, she didn't even make it to five.
Why would you waste your time? Unless you just wanted to go to Barcelona. And who could blame you?
May 19th, 2004, 02:09 AM
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You're asking strangers for advise in family matters? Perhaps you'll be asking for investment advice here too, as well as some marital advice?
Grow up, stop airing your washing in public, pullleez!
Grow up, stop airing your washing in public, pullleez!
May 19th, 2004, 02:53 AM
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Personally, most hens nights are my idea of hell and I love a good night out! No way would I go to Barcelona. I am just not into to the too many beers and tears at the end of the night with someone wearing an "L" plate round their neck.
Just say you need the money for the wedding trip. And wear a huge hat!
Just say you need the money for the wedding trip. And wear a huge hat!
May 19th, 2004, 03:03 AM
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"I really resent her hijacking all my holiday time...." says it ALL.
Did she hold a gun to your head?
Harboring resentment is childish. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you won't participate.
Or, stay passive-aggressive about it and rely on the kindness of strangers.
Did she hold a gun to your head?
Harboring resentment is childish. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you won't participate.
Or, stay passive-aggressive about it and rely on the kindness of strangers.
