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Sue878 Sep 13th, 2010 08:16 AM

Aduchamp1, thanks for the laugh on a Monday morning..

I think OP's husband is bluffing too just to get his way. My DH likes to spend more time in museums then I do also, but I just go find a cafe or go outside and people watch. If he's taking too long (IMO) I just keeping moving thru the museum at my pace. He's real good about compromising with everything.

Worldtraveler1024 - I'll go to Italy with you

catcrazyaf Sep 13th, 2010 09:00 AM

I'll go too. Let's make it a girls trip!

annhig Sep 13th, 2010 09:02 AM

in these days of mobile phones I don't see the OP's [or her DHs'] problem. He inspects the museum at his [snail's] pace, she goes round at hers, and when she's had her fill, she goes off to the cafe/shop/shops nearby. when he's finished, he texts her, and they meet up to discuss/argue.

somehow, though, i suspect [on his part] a different agenda. After all, 3-4 hours is an average [some might say long] time to spend in most museums, and his reaction to her suggestion is a pretty extreme one.

if all else fails, take a book.

Michel_Paris Sep 13th, 2010 09:06 AM

It sounds like the holiday is his, not both of yours. Let him do his thing, plan on meeting for lunch, late afternoon drink,etc..

I've travelled with others, and at some point the frustration level of giving up what I want to do versus their interests was ruining even the 'good times'.

Compromise...and letting each enjoy a trip as they see fit.

d_claude_bear Sep 13th, 2010 09:12 AM

Our dog spends a lot of time sniffing around each canine "tourist attraction." We find that a few strong tugs on his leash solves the problem, at least temporarily.

Have you tried that?

sassy_cat Sep 13th, 2010 09:19 AM

If your husband thinks it's not practical to travel together when a simple and very PRACTICAL solution is to split up during part of the day then maybe you could be equally 'awkward' and suggest rather than traveling separately it would be easier to divorce?

Be careful what you ask for! ;)

nytraveler Sep 13th, 2010 09:45 AM

We're fairly compatible middle of the roaders. But there are definitely some things that each of us likes better - so we just arange to meet later. There's no rule that you have to be joned at the hip the entire time.

ekscrunchy Sep 13th, 2010 10:24 AM

So don't travel with your husband.

Or split up during the day and meet for dinner before you move on tho those horrible Italian B&Bs with the terrible mattresses.

End of story.

Ackislander Sep 13th, 2010 10:32 AM

Trollin', trollin' trollin' down the highway . . . .

Has the OP ever had anything good to say about anything?

ekscrunchy Sep 13th, 2010 10:36 AM

Entire populations have been tarred with but a stroke of the keyboard. Very sad.

In any case, it sounds like the marriage has been in shaky straits before:

The OP was a male in the post above, but now seems to have had a change of orientation...

suze Sep 13th, 2010 10:38 AM

This is easy. Such an obvious answer!! You and your husband should split up during the day. So you can each do what interests you and at a pace you enjoy.

Set a time to meet back at the hotel so you can go out to dinner together.

Nothing worse than being rushed around by an impatient and bored person (from your husband's perspective) or being bored yourself (waiting around for him).

suze Sep 13th, 2010 10:40 AM

<He says an easier approach is for us to just not travel together>
Another good solution.

<because I do not want to travel all the way to Italy alone>
Why not? That's YOUR problem.

Dayenu Sep 13th, 2010 10:43 AM

- go have a nice lunch than pick him up at a museum

- "get lost" and "run into him" later in the day

- bring a book to read

- split after breakfast, agree to meet for dinner

- do you have to travel with your husband? apply for "wife swap" program or invent your own "husband swap"

- pull the fire alarm in a gallery when you are done with your sightseeing

ekscrunchy Sep 13th, 2010 12:29 PM

Please note that this poster was a man in an earlier incarnation but is now posting as a woman. Something smells fishy.

LoveItaly Sep 13th, 2010 12:38 PM

Ekscrunchy, in the back of my mind I was thinking an earlier post indicated the OP was a male or at least the husband. Thanks for posting those other threads as it was the "seperate hotel rooms in Asia" that I was sort of recalling. Perhaps a same sex couple and they decided to switch who was the wife and who was the husband? I sure don't know but my money would be this OP is a troll.

suze Sep 13th, 2010 12:51 PM

wow you guys are correct. this poster is THE MOST complaining-est one i've seen in a long time. they have negative experiences no matter where they go... china, asia, europe. nothing but PROBLEMS!

kathcoll Sep 13th, 2010 01:36 PM

So far she/he has been to Cancun, China and Italy since March and hasn't particularly enjoyed any of them.

If I had their travel budget and vacation time off from work, I think I'd find a way to be happier!

Dayenu Sep 13th, 2010 02:25 PM

"The record stood until 1938, when a Stockholm man, known as the Swedish Cannonball, introduced sneakers and made it in six minutes and twenty-five seconds." - I bet it's faster on a segway!

jubilada Sep 13th, 2010 03:30 PM

LoveItaly: same sex couples don't switch wife/husband. I know you're just being funny, but still....

ParisAmsterdam Sep 13th, 2010 03:30 PM

The OP should get the police from the Rome train station to 'move him along'! ;^)

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