You must be kidding!
Just keep in mind that Cappuccino is drunk in the AM until 11:00 and then Italians typically do not drink a coffee drink with milk in it because it is to heavy to drink after dinner or throughout the day. Traditionally the next time you can drink a Cappuccino is around 3AM when you just exit the disco.

But Americans have adapted Cappuccino as an after dinner drink. Who knows why?

If you order cappuccino in Paris, it means: café au lait with whipped cream on top plus some chocolate powder sprinkles. I find this amazing for a country that touches Italy.

"How could you have asked for a "grande crème"? It is a "grand" or "petit" crème, not grande or petite, as it is modifying the unsaid masculine word "café". Maybe that's why they repeated what you said."

You're absolutely right about the grammar, Kerouac. My French is fine, but my typing sucks! So that's not the answer. And, as I said, I am surprised to hear a number of people at the comptoir order a "cafè crème."

And, as I noted before about my typing, I know that should have been an accent aigu rather than grave in "café."

Don't worry about it. I make so many typos here that a lot of people probably think that I learned English by reading George Bush speeches.

In Switzerland, if you want a cup of coffee with a little container of cream and a cube of sugar, you say, "Cafe Creme, bitte!"