Men traveling solo

Old Feb 27th, 2014, 06:35 AM
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I'm male and I've taken 13 solo trips to Europe, and I hope to take my 14th journey this fall.

I've posted questions on the Forum about travel issues but they're not related to concerns about going abroad as a solo traveler per se. I usually ask about a train or bus route, or a hotel or restaurant, or specifics about a museum or church — issues anyone might ask about.

Reading the posts from solo female travelers over the years, I see understandable concerns about safety in particular cities. And there are sometimes posts about the self-consciousness of dining alone in a restaurant. I've tried to take sensible precautions when I travel, so I don't worry about making my way around a city or country, and I'm old enough not to care if anyone thinks I'm a pariah because I happen to be eating by myself. (Actually, I'm old enough to know that no one cares if I'm dining alone.)

As for asking for directions, I'm not one of those men who's embarrassed to do so. Two years ago I knew I needed help when getting to the Kroller-Muller museum from Amsterdam, and I fortunately got it.
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 07:13 AM
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I'm a male who's traveled 4 times solo to Europe. I've learned one thing. No matter how much research you've done, you have to suppress that male desire to do things alone and never ask for help. I just missed a bus in Avignon last month because I referred to an old poster which showed bus stop locations, rather than asking the person at the counter for help. It turned my whole day's agenda upside down and I had to scramble to make other arrangements.
Indeed, although low season, the vast majority of solo tourists I encountered were female.
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 07:35 AM
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Solo women travellers meet all types of people.. my observation that that the female travelers far outnumber the males is not based on any prejudice.. I just know what i have seen .

There are solo men travellers of course.. but even if you ask them they will likely admit there are far more solo women that they meet then other solo men.
There are a few on this thread that have confirmed that.
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 08:01 AM
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Maybe I'll get flack for saying this buuuuut, a huge reason I have been traveling nonstop is because I've been married for a while, and I want to travel before babies!!!

I've been hearing for the past (many) years, "before you have kids, TRAVEL"

Maybe that's why it's so ingrained for me, because while my body is young and fit, I can explore these places with hubz. I still intend on traveling with kids, but it's different.
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 09:06 AM
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Interesting thread with some amusing comments.

I'm male and have travelled solo many times as well as having travelled as a couple many times. Probably about 50/50.

I have never noticed more solo female travellers when I have been travelling. But then I haven't really tried to count either. I have certainly seen plenty of other solo male travellers. I wouldn't believe anything like a 50:1 ratio mentioned above or that would be very obvious.

When I was single, I certainly looked for solo women travellers for obvious reasons. There never seeemed to be enough.

Maybe, it's like asking, 'why aren't there more women in sports bars?'

Or maybe it's that solo women travellers spend more time looking at other travellers and solo men spend their time looking at where they are visiting and don't notice how many solo travellers there are around them.

I do think more women post here than men. I sometimes wish there was something that showed gender beside a person's name/handle. It would make it easier to understand where their irrational comments are coming from.
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 09:12 AM
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I found some statistics. It seems more women do travel than men. Make of all the statistics what you will. A lot of it seems to be 'opinions of travel agents' rather than actual statistics.
http://gutsytraveler.com/women-travel-statistics-2/
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 09:34 AM
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Colduphere is correct from my perspective.

Men feel comfortable enough when they are out to go to the bathroom by themselves, without assistance as well.
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 09:58 AM
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sparkchaser-so funny you would use that term

> since we have a guy friend who for 30 years leaves his family and wife to travel on adventure trips with a friend and we always call it his mandate
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 12:21 PM
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Hi Deonca,

Loved your confession:

“I'm a male who's traveled 4 times solo to Europe. I've learned one thing. No matter how much research you've done, you have to suppress that male desire to do things alone and never ask for help.”

You sound like quite a guy who learns by your mistakes. Many men would never admit it!

Also, Dulcius, that was an informative article you linked to about women traveling solo – affirming statistics.
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 12:56 PM
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In decades of solo male travel I have never got the impression that an overwhelming number of solo foreign travelers are female - never thought of it but looking back I think that would have to be fact checked.

Women obviously post more queries about traveling solo because of their American learned fears of being assaulted, molested, etc - one reason why I suspect there may indeed be fewer women traveling solo than men.

check out any bus tour - especially for younger folk - they are largely predominately female - in youth hostels when I was younger if was way more men than girls traveling solo.

I think this is an urban myth - and older women may travel solo because their hubbies have died!

I never travel solo anymore because I am sick and tired of being bothered and assaulted and molested by unwanted females hanging all over me! Another reason perhaps men are aloof to travel solo.
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 12:59 PM
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Apersuader you have gone solo on us. Check back in more often!
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 01:09 PM
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Sparkchaser, when did the word hell become a swear word? I've seen a few fodorites not spell it out and I don't understand it. It's not as though you are trying to get away with dropping the f bomb.

Anyway, moving on.

In Europe we've met a few retired women travelling solo and their story was that their husbands had travelled with them when they were younger but had lost interest as they got older. I think that's a shame.
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 01:45 PM
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Well, it's just that as a solo woman - we don't feel specifically confident traveling by ourselves because of safety issue (I am talking on my name of course) and we need to be reassured.

Men don't have these kind of problems and if they did we would certainly know it.

I travel by myself - never asked for help on forums but I did ask for advices to my friends. If I had listened to them, I would have had never moved from my country.

On the other hand, I am glad to have these kind of forums with a helpful community who is always keen to help whoever needs it -

Look at my profile and you'll have a link to a sample of my travels - Yes! I am a woman traveling solo - ! Not a widow...
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Latedaytraveler - thanks. Indeed I like to think I learn from my mistakes. Biggest travel mistake was probably the time I stubbornly refused to ask directions, and turned a fairly routine (or what should have been routine) 20-25 minute evening walk from Rome's Termini Station to my hotel, into a 2 hour odyssey with 6 laps around the 'typewriter' monument. When you're only there for 2 days, losing an hour really burns. You start thinking of all the money you spent to get there, and realize that a lost hour is worth at least 20 bucks. My manliness is only exceeded by my cheapness!

Still waiting to be assaulted and molested by unwanted females. Next time will be the first time. Fingers crossed!
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 02:38 PM
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Still waiting to be assaulted and molested by unwanted females. Next time will be the first time. Fingers crossed!>

I have the name of a narrow lane in Amsterdam's red-light district that if you walk down that may come true - tell me if you wish the name of it!
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 03:12 PM
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It's not hard to get yourself assaulted and molested by females deonca. Just sew a $1000 bill to the back of your shirt and watch them swarm.

Why is there no 'trophy husband' term? Why does 'gold-digger' only refer to women? Why are males who knock on the hotel room door of a female star called stalkers while women doing the same are just called 'groupies'?
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 03:26 PM
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I have traveled solo for more than 20 years and now travel 6 or more weeks at a time.
I use ships for transportation and on the last Atlantic crossing I met 7 other solo travelers....3 men and 4 women
each traveler had their own 'reason' for solo travel.....

you read everything about solo 'gap year' travelers, others who quit their job and travel the world in their 20's and 30's...well I am a mature solo traveler and have a blog to rant or even share great solo travel deals..... we all age and mature solo travel is a BIG trend...
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Old Feb 27th, 2014, 03:27 PM
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Why is there no 'trophy husband' term?>

How about a 'toy boy'? Well in Amsterdam at least that could apply to either sex wanting to go out with a nice looking young guy!
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I've traveled solo often because I'm single (nothing about being old or a widow).

I do encourage newbie solo women here on this forum who seem timid about the idea. But I've never asked for help myself because of going alone. I'm not afraid, but my travel has been to mainstream places like the major cities of Europe where a small amount of common sense is really all you need.
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