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Whathello Aug 26th, 2017 08:29 AM

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My neighbour has a few days left.
What gift could I give her ?
She knows we love her. Her family is with her. 20 people. The house is full of love sadness and remembrance of the good days.
She is such a lovely person. Just above 70. I guess it should be better than 2 years ago when the daughter of close friends was killed in a car crash. Aged 20.
I'll toast to her. Open up a good bottle.
Forget about the pettiness of some here.
Wishing you all a good day. Yes. All of you.
Be safe. Enjoy life. Steal moments of happiness.
A burgundy ? Or a cotes du Rhône.
Difficult decision.
Both ?
Nah. Would be a waste. Weed ?
Anybody a good tip ?

hetismij2 Aug 26th, 2017 08:39 AM

I am sorry about your neighbour. Raise a toast to her, with whatever wine you think suits her.

11 months ago one of our neighbours hanged himself in his garage. No one knew he was so depressed. We had a glass of Heineken in his memory. Foul stuff but the only beer he ever drank.

Carpe Diem!

MoBro Aug 26th, 2017 08:40 AM

Huh?

Macross Aug 26th, 2017 08:42 AM

Is she able to eat or drink? A bottle of wine would be nice for the family. We like to say "liquor is quicker" We waited two hours for hospice to come to say my Dad was dead and then an hour for the undertaker. Sunday might is a bad time to die. We had been drinking most of the day and a bottle of wine or liquor would be nice for the family.

Whathello Aug 26th, 2017 08:47 AM

Yes. Wine.

annhig Aug 26th, 2017 08:51 AM

We all raise a toast to your friend, Whathello and to you.

Perhaps some food for the family? they are probably not thinking about cooking at the moment and if she's aware of things, she will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Whathello Aug 26th, 2017 11:03 AM

Yes a good idea Ann. But they care for it.
We ll pop up here and then.
I found a chateau neuf du pape 1997.
Thanks all. I am not in the best of moods ...
went to the familial cemetery - not my brightest idea
Paid my respect to the 3 British gunmen of the 53rd Atk unit who died on May 16th.

sundriedtopepo Aug 26th, 2017 11:19 AM

When my dad died people brought food and cards...both much appreciated. As Ann says, no-one feels like cooking, but food is comfort, and helps to keep the emotions on a level. The cards were full of expressions of affection for my dad, and many wrote little things that my dad did that made a difference in their lives. I loved him, and was glad to know he meant so much to others as well.

I love a good bottle of wine but sometimes it's not the best thing to cheer one up...

annhig Aug 26th, 2017 11:28 AM

I love a good bottle of wine but sometimes it's not the best thing to cheer one up...>>

true, sundried, but a glass of something good can be a filip.

Whathello - I'm sure that they are heartened by your support. I know I would be.

bvlenci Aug 26th, 2017 11:34 AM

This reminds me of a joke, but I don't know if levity is inappropriate.

PalenQ Aug 26th, 2017 11:38 AM

Nah. Would be a waste. Weed ?>

If she is in pain that cannot be controlled without potent pain killers that knock heer out weed may be great - a friend who was dying of pancreatic cancer said that of all the things for pain she tried weed worked the best without leaving her catanonic and helped her appetite and keep food down.

nukesafe Aug 26th, 2017 11:48 AM

I am sorry you are feeling sad because of your neighbor's imminent passing, Bernard. surely the support of you and the rest of those who know her will make the process less disturbing. I'm certain your wine will ease the feelings of all, but you should perhaps bring both bottles, if there are twenty family in attendance.

At age 86 I am getting quite accepting about the process of going. A kindly neighbor bringing me a glass of grape would surely bring comfort. And, as someone once said, "One of the few nice things about old age is that it doesn't last long.".

sundriedtopepo Aug 26th, 2017 12:31 PM

Nukesafe, I decided a long time ago that when I get to 86 I'm going to live on cookies, since there won't be a pressing reason not to...

In these days when neighbors hardly know each other, I'm sure that your neighbors, whathello, will enjoy a glass of wine, and your family's support.

Judy Aug 26th, 2017 12:49 PM

I think what your neighbor and family must appreciate most is your friendship and desire to help in this difficult time. Anything you do will certainly be appreciated, excellent wine even more so.

Macross Aug 26th, 2017 01:01 PM

Nukesafe, you are 86?
I work with hospice and have seen some great moments among friends during those last days, Everyone is different and for us, we were drained mentally and some herb would have been great. Pancreatic is an extremely painful way to go.

kja Aug 26th, 2017 02:09 PM

A 1997 Chateau Neuf du Pape, shared with you, sounds perfect.
My sympathies....

bilboburgler Aug 27th, 2017 12:53 AM

Tokaji Escencia is claimed to have brought a couple of Tsar's back from the dead. Probably not that much help, but death is something you get to do alone.

Whathello Aug 27th, 2017 02:13 AM

Thanks all.
I finally settled on a Sauternes 2000 that was hidden in my cellar. She likes white and weet better.
Brought tears from her daughter and she might have a sip.
Thanks again.

annhig Aug 27th, 2017 05:32 AM

that's lovely, whathello. I knew that your kindness would be greatly appreciated.

catcrazyaf Aug 29th, 2017 07:19 PM

wh, you are a kind soul.


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