How Do I Convince Hubby We Need That Trip To Paris
Jul 11th, 2006, 06:23 PM
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There are two very important factors here.
1. Is there any particular reason that he doesn't want to go to France? if not ....
2. Is your credit card connected to any airlines?
if not ....
Do what I do when I spend a horrendous amount on something. Tell him to think of the expense as miles, not dollars. Works every time with my DH! He can't fight that kind of logic -he knows when he's been out-manuevered (sp) ;-)
Nina
1. Is there any particular reason that he doesn't want to go to France? if not ....
2. Is your credit card connected to any airlines?
if not ....
Do what I do when I spend a horrendous amount on something. Tell him to think of the expense as miles, not dollars. Works every time with my DH! He can't fight that kind of logic -he knows when he's been out-manuevered (sp) ;-)
Nina
Jul 11th, 2006, 07:01 PM
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There was a post here about a year ago about something similiar to this. I belive it was about a poster who wanted to sell everything and live in Europe for a year.
Opinions were mixed. Some felt it was selfish, foolish financially, and the like. What I remember most were poignant stories from Fodorites who had experienced health problems or even a spousal death at an unexpected age.
MY DH and I are nearing 50 and in good health. But, we both notice we ain't the same as we used to be. Aches and pains and wrinkles and bad eyesight. We have decide to try to do a Europe trip annually as finances allow. We also lead a pretty conservative life financially compared to others in our peer group so that helps. We live in a smaller condo, have one car, and we don't buy a lot of "stuff." So, thats how we have figured it out.
Good luck Baker.
Opinions were mixed. Some felt it was selfish, foolish financially, and the like. What I remember most were poignant stories from Fodorites who had experienced health problems or even a spousal death at an unexpected age.
MY DH and I are nearing 50 and in good health. But, we both notice we ain't the same as we used to be. Aches and pains and wrinkles and bad eyesight. We have decide to try to do a Europe trip annually as finances allow. We also lead a pretty conservative life financially compared to others in our peer group so that helps. We live in a smaller condo, have one car, and we don't buy a lot of "stuff." So, thats how we have figured it out.
Good luck Baker.
Jul 11th, 2006, 07:17 PM
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Don't go solo . . . Take my wife -
OK, skip the traveling, just take my wife anyway . . .
(hey, DocDan, THAT'S helpful)
Seriously, in addition to the financial stress of being newly retired, there is also loss of control issues, which some men struggle with more than others. This may be stirring up a control issue in your relationship (nod to Dr. Phil)in spite of your intentions to the contrary. Whatever the issue is, I agree with above posters to give space and time a chance to work - meanwhile, keep dong homework and watch for good deals.
OK, skip the traveling, just take my wife anyway . . .
(hey, DocDan, THAT'S helpful)
Seriously, in addition to the financial stress of being newly retired, there is also loss of control issues, which some men struggle with more than others. This may be stirring up a control issue in your relationship (nod to Dr. Phil)in spite of your intentions to the contrary. Whatever the issue is, I agree with above posters to give space and time a chance to work - meanwhile, keep dong homework and watch for good deals.
Jul 12th, 2006, 02:52 AM
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I have a similar situation althought I am just as concerned about our retirement funds lasting as long as we do. In addition, my husband doesn't enjoy big cities.
I travel to Europe on an almost annual basis with a friend who's husband doesn't want to go for other reasons. We travel off season. We stay in budget hotels and hostels. We have a blast. I set aside a certain amount in my travel account each month.
After seven years of 'gal travel', he will be traveling with me to Norway in 2007. After that, it will probably be back to 'gal travel'.
Some people are happiest at home. My husband also knows that I won't be doing much shopping or fancy dining.
I travel to Europe on an almost annual basis with a friend who's husband doesn't want to go for other reasons. We travel off season. We stay in budget hotels and hostels. We have a blast. I set aside a certain amount in my travel account each month.
After seven years of 'gal travel', he will be traveling with me to Norway in 2007. After that, it will probably be back to 'gal travel'.
Some people are happiest at home. My husband also knows that I won't be doing much shopping or fancy dining.
Jul 12th, 2006, 05:02 AM
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you don't NEED a trip to Paris (as stated in you header) you WANT a trip to Paris.
People need oxygen to breathe, a heart to pump blood, etc. Though, if you have to breathe and pump blood, Paris seems like a good place as any to do those activities.
Have him post his reasons here.
People need oxygen to breathe, a heart to pump blood, etc. Though, if you have to breathe and pump blood, Paris seems like a good place as any to do those activities.
Have him post his reasons here.
Jul 12th, 2006, 03:06 PM
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Try this: when you are too old/ill to travel, what will you remember - what you did or what you didn't do?
If he's worried about money, why not try bargaining - if you do the trip to Paris, then can you economise elsewhere?
Have you discussed how you/ he are going to spend his retirement? does he have plans he hasn't told you about? At the risk of his reading this posting, and not wishing to offend, but have you discussed how much travel you want to do? I sense that you will not be satisfied with staying at home all the time. If your finances are sound, is there some other reason why he doesn't want to do an annual trip? What you do now may set the tone for a number of years, so you need to talk!
Sorry to sound like an agony aunt, but retirement ain't necessarily easy for either of you. Good luck!
If he's worried about money, why not try bargaining - if you do the trip to Paris, then can you economise elsewhere?
Have you discussed how you/ he are going to spend his retirement? does he have plans he hasn't told you about? At the risk of his reading this posting, and not wishing to offend, but have you discussed how much travel you want to do? I sense that you will not be satisfied with staying at home all the time. If your finances are sound, is there some other reason why he doesn't want to do an annual trip? What you do now may set the tone for a number of years, so you need to talk!
Sorry to sound like an agony aunt, but retirement ain't necessarily easy for either of you. Good luck!
