Amy travel agencies do not make money like they used to. I would not go that route because they will probobly ask for $ to do this and rightfully so.<BR>You might call someone like American Airlines Vacations and see what they can do for you. Then perhaps ask for AA Gift Certificates to pay for trip if that is possible. I wish you luck on your planning and have fun!

I see no reason to simply spread the word that you and your husband-to-be would like cash for a honeymoon. Come on, we all know that 95% or more of guests bring presents to wedding. It's nothing that's expected, but people freely do so. It's silly to register for things you don't need (and will never use). It's also a waste of your guests time searching on the registry for a gift you half-heartedly want. For those that feel more comfortable bringing a gift, then register somewhere where you can return the items for cash, rather than in-store credit. Then the hassles on you to do all the returns. <BR> As for "Ms Manners"....what an ironic title for you!! I don't remember anyone asking you how much your "East Coast" wedding cost. I'd be curious to know how much of your $47,000 "ballroom" wedding your daddy paid for? Maybe you should be the one to "grow up" and start paying for things on your own. Judging from your responses, I'm sure you were a lovely bride. I'm also curious as to how many of your bridesmaids (probably ten, for show) still have anything to do with you. You couldn't pay me to stand beside someone like you. You're a vicious, mean person. You're lucky to have found a fool to marry you. Lets hope he's smart enough to not stay married to you for too long. <BR> My last suggestion to you, Amy...if you want to go to Italy, I say go for it. My husband and I were in Chicago sitting on the runway September 11th waiting to leave for our honeymoon. Needless to say, we never made it off the ground (thank god). However, we're going to try for it again this year to celebrate our one year. We leave for Italy a week from today and couldn't be more excited. I'm assuming you don't have kids, so if this is something you really want to do, then do it now! Life's too short. As you can see from this forum, people are beginning to sweat the "small stuff" again. And where did the kindness to a stranger go? Best wishes to you and your endeavours!

I am wondering who is among that alleged 5 percent that does not bring a gift to a wedding.. that to me is the tackiest thing I have heard of... would you go to a birthday party empty-handed, and just say "my presence is your gift?" I was raised that you should not even arrive empty handed to someone's home, let alone a party they were hosting!<BR><BR>I am hoping none of you who fit this category are coming to my wedding.

Actually, traditoinal proper etiquette calls for wedding gifts to be sent to the bride's home, NOT brought to the wedding ceremony or reception itself, since as we know it's a hassle to deal with security etc. during those events. It's not as if they're going to open the gifts at the event. Is it?

Wondering... you'll be surprised how some people will show up without a gift. I agree, it's extremely tacky!

msmanners = Biiiaatch!!!<BR>Sara sounds like a sweetheart

Judith<BR><BR>Actually, when i discussed the possibility of showing up empty-handed, i did not mean it literally.. just wanted to express my shock at the idea of not giving a gift to a bride and groom. YOu make a good point about sending a gift. Actually, I think the rule of etiquette allows for the passage of 3-6 months from the date of the wedding to give a gift. <BR><BR><BR>Anyway, warm wishes Amy.. hope you have a great wedding day and honeymoon!

Try AAA, the should be able to help you. If not, I'd talk to a local travel agent about it. I doubt they'd take that much of a cut.

Well... well... well looks like the catty bitches are out of their respective cages. Hey msmanners, you certainly are one big ass bitch. Hope you enjoyed your 40K "East Coast" wedding because your divorced ass won't be worth the Styrofoam plates that you claim Amy eats her meatballs on. I hope your husband was smart enough to foresee your eventual conversion to the queen of hate and get a prenuptial. If not I guess you’ll be taking him to the cleaners in about a year or two. I'll bet your snooty ass has never even eaten a meatball has it. You should try them some time. They're all the rage in Italy. So Amy let your guests know that they can be proud to have had a part in an experience of a lifetime by making it possible for you and your new husband to enjoy your honeymoon in Italy. If your guests think that that is tacky then they can choose to do something else. If any of you guests are like msmanners then you don’t need them in your life anyway. Pay attention to the nice people, the msmanners’ of the world only think that they matter. Enjoy your wedding and your honeymoon in Italy. Ciao<BR><BR>P.S. It sure it too bad msmanners isn’t around to bestow her infinite etiquette wisdom upon we mere etiquette mortals. <BR>

And for clarification..this was for the bridal shower...not the wedding.<BR>I'm not going to even begin to rebuttle with the many "classy" females out there who so openly voiced their (unasked for) opinion.<BR>

Bridal shower? what's that? do you mean you get 2 gifts off some lucky friends? Baby showers I've heard of, but bridal shower???

It would probably be better to register for gifts for the bridal showers and ask for money towards your honeymoon for the wedding. Most people prefer to bring gifts to showers. And Brit, maybe bridal showers are "American" but they've been around for centuries.

I agree with the above, just ask for cash.

Best Wishes, Amy!<BR>Your post certainly brought out the worst and best in people. <BR>Have you looked into Marshall Field's registry service? I know they also have a travel agency. This would make it easy for everyone. Those who choose to give you crystal, silver, etc, may, and those who see travel agency listed can opt for that. <BR>I would personally be delighted to see Travel agency listed as a possible place for my gift to the couple. What could be more wonderful than to help provide a travel experience.<BR>May your wedding and marriage be wonderful!<BR>Gigi

I know! We'll all just send our gift donations to Rex and you can go on his trip! Sounds like a blast!

On a gift list I received once for either a wedding or shower, I can't remember, they listed a travel agency which was part of a department store where you could contribute. It was really nicely done and did not bring up any ideas of classlessness. I think the invite said something like we have all we need, we just would like little honeymoon, if you would like to contribute.....

OK...ENOUGH! The point of this question was to get information for a bridal shower, not to receive unwanted negative opinions from the majority of the responses.<BR>If you know your bridal party is hosting a shower, then I see no reason in registering for what you do not need and want. The givers would prefer to give a gift you will enjoy. Be it a punch bowl or a gondola ride in Venice.<BR> <BR>And I have no idea where you all thought I was inserting cards in my wedding invitations to ask for gifts!<BR>As far as the name calling...grow up.<BR>What a wonderful example you are (will be) to your children.<BR>That being said, please put this issue to rest.

One final clarification....to ms manners...The Knot actually suggests honeymoon registires and lists resources in The knot's Complete Guide to Weddings in the REAL World.<BR>