Have any women traveling alone been approached by a gigolo?
Jun 7th, 2004, 02:25 PM
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Have any women traveling alone been approached by a gigolo?
Just got back from London and Paris and I think I met up with a gigolo. Have any other women traveling alone had this problem? Talk about a smooth operator. Luckily I was wise to him. charming as heck but had that gigolo mentality.
Jun 7th, 2004, 02:31 PM
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I think it's quite common for Western women to be approached by men who profess an interest in romance but are actually interested in improving their immigration status, one way or another. That's practically like a gigolo.
Jun 7th, 2004, 02:44 PM
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NYCFS, LOL~
Madison, how could you tell? Did he ask or mention money right away? Sheesh! I thought that was mostly in Italy. I have seen some charming men in London and Paris but never got the feeling that they were gigolos, mostly just guys flirting like anywhere else in the world..
Do tell all the details
Madison, how could you tell? Did he ask or mention money right away? Sheesh! I thought that was mostly in Italy. I have seen some charming men in London and Paris but never got the feeling that they were gigolos, mostly just guys flirting like anywhere else in the world..
Do tell all the details
Jun 7th, 2004, 02:47 PM
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Yes, I am always getting approached by young gigolo types. I think it is amusing and don't take it as an insult.
We had some young guys come up to us this last trip and ask to show us "Amalfi by night", even they had to laugh when we said, "Amalfi by night? There is only one road in the whole town!".
Later, we actually became friendly with one of them and he turned out to be a nice young man and alot deeper than we originally thought with a dry sense of humor.
We had some young guys come up to us this last trip and ask to show us "Amalfi by night", even they had to laugh when we said, "Amalfi by night? There is only one road in the whole town!".
Later, we actually became friendly with one of them and he turned out to be a nice young man and alot deeper than we originally thought with a dry sense of humor.
Jun 7th, 2004, 03:01 PM
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Scarlett -Where do I begin. I was approached by a man on Sloane Street where my hotel was. He was on his way to a Roberto Cavalli party, which was directly across from my hotel. When he spotted me he followed me until he caught up with me. ASked if I was Spanish I said no and thought to myself who is this nut? We talked for awhile and he asked me out for a drink and I said yes. I finally said I had to leave. He asked if he could call. I was pursued like I've never been pursued before. He took me places but one day when we went to lunch he said he lost his wallet (highly doubt it) so I ended up paying for lunch. He did reimburse me but something just didn't ring true about him. When I went to Paris he called me every day and since returning to Los Angeles we have communicated via phone and email.
When I asked what he did for a living he said at the moment he plays tennis at his club. That made me suspicious right there. He called in L.A. and said he wanted to visit me. I did not offer my place to stay and since then he hasn't brought up coming to L.A.
My friends (of course the jealous ones) say that he wants to become a citizen. He's already one in England where he has teenage children. Someone even went so far to say I think he could be with al Quaida and is trying to infiltrate this country through you (honest to God this was said to me.) Scarlett I have left out a lot of stuff because this message would get way too long and irritate most of the posters.
When I asked what he did for a living he said at the moment he plays tennis at his club. That made me suspicious right there. He called in L.A. and said he wanted to visit me. I did not offer my place to stay and since then he hasn't brought up coming to L.A.
My friends (of course the jealous ones) say that he wants to become a citizen. He's already one in England where he has teenage children. Someone even went so far to say I think he could be with al Quaida and is trying to infiltrate this country through you (honest to God this was said to me.) Scarlett I have left out a lot of stuff because this message would get way too long and irritate most of the posters.
Jun 7th, 2004, 03:08 PM
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Whoa, Madison, that dude was a smoothe operator. Anybody feel a Sade song coming on????
I've had maitre d's flirt with me - does that count? And one kissed me on the mouth when I was just trying to lean to kiss him on the cheek. He was very deft & smooth. For the longest time I couldn't figure out WHY he would do that. I came to the conclusion recently that it must be because I make a lot of eye contact when talking.
I'm so glad I didn't have to experience what you went through, though. Poor dear.
I've had maitre d's flirt with me - does that count? And one kissed me on the mouth when I was just trying to lean to kiss him on the cheek. He was very deft & smooth. For the longest time I couldn't figure out WHY he would do that. I came to the conclusion recently that it must be because I make a lot of eye contact when talking.
I'm so glad I didn't have to experience what you went through, though. Poor dear.
Jun 7th, 2004, 03:24 PM
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I have to admit I did have a fun time with him, but like I said before something just didn't ring true about him. I guess just another one of life's experiences.
I guess I am naive in believing people can use, or try to use, other people. I guess my mind just doesn't go there.
I guess I am naive in believing people can use, or try to use, other people. I guess my mind just doesn't go there.
Jun 7th, 2004, 03:38 PM
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Beatchick, same thing here, about the Sade song!
There's also, of course, her lesson-known French song, "Louvre Operator"...
He's laughing at that piece of art
And playing with another heart
Venus de Milo, Mona Lisa
All he wants is a U.S. visa
No need to ask
He's a smooth operator
Smooth operator, smooth operator
Smooth operator
There's also, of course, her lesson-known French song, "Louvre Operator"...
He's laughing at that piece of art
And playing with another heart
Venus de Milo, Mona Lisa
All he wants is a U.S. visa
No need to ask
He's a smooth operator
Smooth operator, smooth operator
Smooth operator
Jun 7th, 2004, 03:40 PM
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Sounds like you had a good time with him... so I wonder what the problem is...
Unless you have now a broken heart for having fallen in love with this man, Madison, he didn't really hurt you, did he?
Unless you have now a broken heart for having fallen in love with this man, Madison, he didn't really hurt you, did he?
Jun 7th, 2004, 03:45 PM
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Well, since none of you know who I am I can be honest, yes he did hurt me. Not to worry, no real hanky panky involved. But he pursued me, wooed me, said such wonderful things. I resisted him for the longest time, didn't return his calls, etc. But to think that maybe he didn't want to be with me just wanted to maybe get into this country or maybe just a free place to stay is kind of upsetting. I don't like to be used. I expect people to be up front and honest with me as I am with them and that just doesn't always happen.
Jun 7th, 2004, 03:54 PM
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Sure, I've been approached numerous times on the Amalfi Coast, it's a very common sport with the men of all ages. One need not take it too seriously.
A friend and I were also followed once in Florence for the better part of a day-including the guys following us in motorscooters when we tried to lose them by hopping on a bus! In Rome, I was hounded by a policeman believe it or not! So many stories, so little time. It's good not to let your heart get all twisted up like a pretzel,
sounds like you got a little involved..
I know several Italian men here who got here by romancing an American girl to get married.Some were sincere, not all.
Try to avoid getting too obsessed (says me!), keep your wallet locked, and don't sign anything! Otherwise, don't worry too much!
My second cousin married one of these guys years ago-she met him on a trip in Isreal-he was a British citizen. 2 months after they were married and living in Florida, Interpol came looking for him. She is a smart lady, but he had her fooled completely, so I think there is always that possibility, which I realize others might think is silly.
Take care, hope you don't break a heartstring!
A friend and I were also followed once in Florence for the better part of a day-including the guys following us in motorscooters when we tried to lose them by hopping on a bus! In Rome, I was hounded by a policeman believe it or not! So many stories, so little time. It's good not to let your heart get all twisted up like a pretzel,
sounds like you got a little involved..
I know several Italian men here who got here by romancing an American girl to get married.Some were sincere, not all.
Try to avoid getting too obsessed (says me!), keep your wallet locked, and don't sign anything! Otherwise, don't worry too much!
My second cousin married one of these guys years ago-she met him on a trip in Isreal-he was a British citizen. 2 months after they were married and living in Florida, Interpol came looking for him. She is a smart lady, but he had her fooled completely, so I think there is always that possibility, which I realize others might think is silly.
Take care, hope you don't break a heartstring!
Jun 7th, 2004, 03:55 PM
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Well, Madison, there're different types of people, personalities, and cultures... Some are upfront, some are sneaky, some are shy, some are outgoing, some are more, and others less confident, whether in themselves or others.
I suspected that your question wasn't really related to travel, but you wanted us to confirm your friend's suspects that this specific man was probably a gigolo and had no other interest in you than your your citizenship, or tell you that your friend's and your own suspects were wrong... and that he might have been (why not?) interested in you..
If you, at least, could treasure the nice memories, and let go the rest... I guess it's what I would do, if I were you.
I suspected that your question wasn't really related to travel, but you wanted us to confirm your friend's suspects that this specific man was probably a gigolo and had no other interest in you than your your citizenship, or tell you that your friend's and your own suspects were wrong... and that he might have been (why not?) interested in you..
If you, at least, could treasure the nice memories, and let go the rest... I guess it's what I would do, if I were you.
Jun 7th, 2004, 03:58 PM
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"I expect people to be up front and honest with me as I am with them and that just doesn't always happen."
Exactly. I was just thinking from your previous comment, Madison, that your mind doesn't automatically think someone is shafting you because YOUR mind doesn't work like that (you don't machinate to shaft someone). I think that's a good thing.
It doesn't necessarily make you naive.
Capo, you KNOW I'm on the phone
over here; you made me SNORT over the phone. 
Louvre Operator, indeed!! 
I wonder how many lines she can answer at once????
Exactly. I was just thinking from your previous comment, Madison, that your mind doesn't automatically think someone is shafting you because YOUR mind doesn't work like that (you don't machinate to shaft someone). I think that's a good thing.
It doesn't necessarily make you naive.Capo, you KNOW I'm on the phone
over here; you made me SNORT over the phone. Louvre Operator, indeed!! I wonder how many lines she can answer at once????
Jun 7th, 2004, 04:02 PM
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You've all been so kind and supportive. Well, at least, I had enough common sense not to open up my home to him, nor to sign anything.
I think we have to pity these people as they are living one big lie and may come across some wonderful person who they will never appreciate (not necessarily me) I'll take my life any day over theirs.
Yes, I do treasure the fun part of it. He did show me a good time but I'm sure had a definite motive behind all of it.
I think we have to pity these people as they are living one big lie and may come across some wonderful person who they will never appreciate (not necessarily me) I'll take my life any day over theirs.
Yes, I do treasure the fun part of it. He did show me a good time but I'm sure had a definite motive behind all of it.
Jun 7th, 2004, 05:06 PM
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Last year in Prague, I was approached by an Algerian man who somehow pursuaded me to take a walk through romantic Letna Park at night. I kept thinking "this is stupid..he could mug me, or worse". Turned out he was harmless, but professed his love for me that very night!? He also said "This is a miracle... I've always wanted to marry an American girl!!" Of course, I began to suspect something was up...! I actually had lunch, as well as a drink with him the next day. He gave me a watch & a rose, and told me that the next time I return, he would have something even more special - a ring! Well, I stopped answering my mobile phone, and got out of the country. End of story.
