French Kissing Tradition Endangered?

Sep 10th, 2009, 07:51 AM
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i have told DH about the 3 kisses in Holland and 2 in France.
I hope people are still doing it as I think it is cool
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Sep 10th, 2009, 09:03 AM
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Don't make me post the kissing map again! It's 1, 2, 3 or 4 depending on where you are in France!
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Sep 10th, 2009, 09:45 AM
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In Brittany once, long ago, when i met a young local lass, she was proud of saying 'in Brittany we kiss three times' - Coco would not approve
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Sep 10th, 2009, 11:20 AM
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Okay, here is the French kissing map again!

http://sergeattias.com/wp-content/up...n-de-bises.jpg
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Sep 10th, 2009, 11:33 AM
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i dont understand the map...
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Sep 10th, 2009, 11:48 AM
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It shows the number of kisses per département (county). The Paris area is reproduced on the left in place of the white spot on the map.

Naturally, there are variations even within a département. Actually, one must remember for each person that one has met how many kisses are expected, although a group will conform to the number of kisses that the first person receives (2, 3, 4....). I love it!
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Sep 10th, 2009, 11:53 AM
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kerouac - nice, a kissing map - who would have dreamt it was all so complex - i wonder if Moslems kiss at all? Or Blacks?
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Sep 10th, 2009, 01:34 PM
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Muslims kiss much more than non-Muslims, although outside of the family, they only kiss members of the same sex. Since more and more young men are now kissing each other as friends in Paris, I am pretty sure that it is the North African influence that is spreading. In the old days, men kissing each other was reserved for the family or really close friends, but in this century, just about all young men under the age of 25 seem to be kissing each other when they meet.

It is still nothing compared to the Middle East, where the men seem to kiss each other at least 10 times.
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Sep 11th, 2009, 06:40 AM
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Here young folk are hugging each other like crazy - a new trend in the past few years - hugs everywhere even with casual friends - and some schools are trying to stop it as it can go too far they say. We had a thread on this recently and most oldsters thought it was a good trend. Not good for Swine Flu prevention in schools though i guess.
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Sep 11th, 2009, 08:21 AM
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Since we just spent a year in 3-kiss Netherlands, I asked DH (who is a virologist) whether he thinks cheek "kisses" are worse than handshakes for Swine flu passing. His completely off-the-top-of-his-half-asleep-head, not for attribution nor to be examined with scientific rigor, is that cheek kissing may be worse. His semi-comatose thinking was that since the flu is a respiratory virus and you are putting your mouth and nose in such close proximity to the other person's and then breathing on each other, that it may increase the chances for spreading. He suggested (I think he was kidding but he's back asleep) if you held your breath during the whole exercise, it might be better.
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Sep 11th, 2009, 09:31 AM
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But most of the squirming bugs are on your filthy hands that have been opening doors or holding onto subway or bus posts.
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Sep 11th, 2009, 11:25 AM
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Hey, if it weren't for the millions of germs we carry around with us daily, some of us wouldn't have any friends to share things with.

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Sep 11th, 2009, 11:26 AM
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I spent the day today wandering around Toulouse watching people kiss. Unfortunately I did not record these instances photographically. But it got pretty confusing out there, and I could swear that some people kissed left first and some kissed right. I am suffering from a bit of vertigo, though, so I might have been confused.
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Sep 11th, 2009, 01:05 PM
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EVERYBODY heads for the left. Otherwise there would be a lot of serious facial collisions.
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Sep 11th, 2009, 01:16 PM
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It seems to moi that the hardness of the buss is important to how much someone likes you - a perfunctory peck on the cheeks or an implanted kiss.
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Sep 11th, 2009, 01:32 PM
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Absolutely. Each "bise" is full of information. I feel so sorry for those people who think that air kissing is the thing to do. What a waste of time and effort!
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Sep 12th, 2009, 01:19 PM
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Just entertained 2 French friends, our French doctor, and Canadian friend. Kissed all of them, and was kissed back. And we still live.
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Sep 12th, 2009, 01:51 PM
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I have seen no change in kissing habits in Paris. There is some degree of hysteria about swine flu within the French government, but much less so within the general population, although sensationalistic media reports still take their toll.

It is unlikely that the tradition of kissing will die out just because of some temporary hype about the flu, just as it is unlikely that fear of the flu will persuade French men to wash their hands after using the toilet.
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Sep 15th, 2009, 09:55 PM
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Kissing observation update. Spent yesterday at the market in Trie sur Baise. Everybody headed right, then left. Kissed the left cheek and then the right. My vertigo is much better so I'm pretty sure I got it right. Maybe it is different in Paris than in the midi?
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Sep 16th, 2009, 08:36 AM
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Maybe it is different in Paris than in the midi?> See Kerouac's Kissing Map of France, above - it seems to vary from department to department - two, three or four
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