At least I'm not the only one who doesn't know. I feel better now. Thank you cigalechanta.

bkm - bookmark - a way of finding that post in the future

LucieV: netiquette :) and please forgive me travelerjan..Hi cigale...

I always try to thank a poster for info but am not offended if I am not thanked or responded to. Lots of different styles here.

When I came up, "twee" was a way of describing a certain kind if indie rock, usually emo. But then it makes sense that it's a Britishism. ;)

robjame, I will never stop thanking you for those mouthwatering photos of food on your various trips to France. And thanks for the advice about rental car return fees at train stations today, too.

imo, there are lots of ways/reasons that people new to this forum might remain silent. One that has been mentioned is that they might not know how to find their post.

I know that when I posted my first question on Fodor's, I didn't say much of anything after getting replies, for fear of topping my post needlessly. I figured I wasn't adding anything. Now when I post, I will hop back in, but not after every reply; it just seems like too much to me.

Geez, some floozy promised to "love me forever", if I gave him advice on Germany just a week ago.
I gave good advice and didn't even get a limp cyber rose! :'(
But the good thing is other people responded too.

When there are competing opinions (about best transport, how long something takes, which pass to buy, where to stay) it would be great if the OP would report back on their decision and if they'd do it differently or if it was as easy as some said, etc.

When I do a search on a question, I definitely benefit from reading the range of options that are given but it would be nice to know the OP's opinion on what they felt was the best advice since I'm trying to figure out what to do in the same situation.

So my desire for follow-up is more a practical concern and less about etiquette, but I notice when people do report back they always thank everyone anyway.

I feel so cheap and used when an OP never calls again!

Seriously, two burning questions: Is it okay to wear work boots to the opera in Paris? And, are bow ties too formal for bistros?

"I also hate the DH and other short PC terms and it took me a long time to figure them out"

hey cigale, when you say PC do you mean Personal Computer or Politically Correct? (just kidding)

I also have an aversion to the DearHusband, DearDaughter abbreviations - it sounds oddly 19th century to me... "ah, but alas, dear reader..." But the abbreviations do help you write quickly -- I'm guilty of frequently using BF for boyfriend.

Degas! O.K., you're right, I don't need follow-up on *all* the threads.

Maybe Fodors can just run a continuous advertising banner that says across the top, "Yes, you can wear jeans in the city of _________." It's the least they can do given how much information they "lift" from the boards.

I too think its rude for the OP to not resopnded to answers,after extensive reasearch.I put to probably one reason that all of us are responding from different parts of the world.A truly world community.Considering the time differences across the world and the time taken for the OP to react,the question would have drowned in the thread.
Some, I believe just find their answers from the various responses and presume the topic is over.I guess a simple thank you would suffice,for you are sure the OP is satisfied.
What ever it may be its appropriate to look for the post and end it right.

I try to thank everyone after a post or make some sort of response.

BUT... some people just don't know when it's time to walk away and will go on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on

As a new poster I can answer a few questions from my perspective.
I was brought up to be polite and respectful so at first I was very wary of unintentionally offending people. This could easily have happened because I was genuinely ignorant about how forums worked. I had a million questions I wanted answers to but felt uncertain about raising them. My solution was to read and read other people's questions ( & the answers to them) and try & glean some of the netiquette that way.
Also, when I did receive useful help I didn't want to appear "greedy" by asking further questions. Furthermore, I didn't want to appear selfish by taking up too much internet space (or whatever it's called!) by giving details of what I intended to do as a result of the advice received!!I also didn't want to "bore" people with my stuff. Pretty scarey really!!!
I still don't really understand a lot of what to do but I give it a go, trying to "catch on" as I go.
I have been SO grateful for all the advice given to me and all of it, in one way or another, has helped shape our trip in July.
So ... on behalf of myself and any other new poster who unintentionally caused offence - sorry for the offence but thank you for the advice!

OK...keeping in the spirit of this post, I want to extend my thanks to ROBJAME, the OP, for posting it in the first place.

Yes, it was helpful (and I sincerely mean that) and informative.

It doesn't bother me if a person doesn't say thanks for the info. What is a bit annoying is when someone posts a recommendation for a place to stay, dine, tour, etc and never comes back to answer a follow-up question. I know we all have lives beyond Fodor's and things happen, but it is not difficult to check a post you started or contributed to with a suggestion and see if someone has a question about it.

A few months ago, someone recommended a place to stay in an area we are visiting and I saw the link, checked it out and loved it. We did more research, spoke to the owner, etc and reserved a week. I posted back to the person who posted the link and it seems that she has disappeared from Fodors. It would have been great to get information from her about the apartment since she had spent a week there.

I hope I have not been guilty myself of this over the many years of posting (if so, I truly apologize and thank you), but this happened to me recently and that's what made me think of it.

Most new posters don't know how to retreive their post once it gets off the top fifty.

IMHO (In My Humble Opinion) it shows better manners to top one's own post several times than to create new ones asking the same question over and over again.

Bookmarking or Tagging is a great way to archive info for future trips. Sometimes you find great old posts after researching for days and that is the best way to keep an easy link to them for the technically challenged.

I always try to return, at least to say thanks, but fodorites can be an impatient crowd. Once I posted a question, then actually WORKED all day...when I returned about 7 hours later, I was being chided for abandoning the thread.

I guess I feel less used when I'm not thanked on a message board than when not thanked for work done on a more personal basis. An acquaintance who had moved away was interested in a destination we'd recently visited, so she emailed me asking for advice. I spent a lot of time assembling restaurant, hotel and other information and sent her several detailed emails...never a thanks, no idea if they went on the trip.

I honestly once thought serious about becoming a travel agent.

<b>But</b> after reading some of the posts on this site there is <b>no way</b> I could ever do it.

I'm happy to contribute my limited knowledge without any formal thanks. But sometimes I am curious! Like...where did that bride to be have her wedding reception in Tuscany ..and.. when will Maitaitom give his Paris report -:) (Or have I missed it?)

hey there, nice post from Sissy 57!!! great perspective from a new poster. thanks, suze