Don't you just hate it when the OP disappears?
Jan 10th, 2007, 02:53 PM
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Sorry, but even when I thank in advance, I acknowledge the help received afterwards. Those times when the op has not done the same, I've wondered if they even saw my post.
To me it's polite to not just say thank you but to even go so far as to say just what advice is likely to be especially helpful, to thank individual responders by name, etc. Sometimes I don't have time to do all this, but it seems like good manners to try...
To me it's polite to not just say thank you but to even go so far as to say just what advice is likely to be especially helpful, to thank individual responders by name, etc. Sometimes I don't have time to do all this, but it seems like good manners to try...
Jan 10th, 2007, 03:00 PM
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As the OP I was resisting responding to my own post but you see...
I think it is more than a thank you - when you have given some information, you want to know if it was helpful, did it answer the question, did it beg more questions. When there is no response it is like a person who asks you a question and looks away during the answer. Maybe as a former educator I am just sensitive to that.
I think it is more than a thank you - when you have given some information, you want to know if it was helpful, did it answer the question, did it beg more questions. When there is no response it is like a person who asks you a question and looks away during the answer. Maybe as a former educator I am just sensitive to that.
Jan 10th, 2007, 03:44 PM
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It's funny, I was just thinking about this the other evening. It's happened to me twice during the last couple of weeks: someone asked a question, a few of us answered, and the post disappeared. I think suze makes a good point, though; as frustrating as this might be, the information is there for someone else to find later on.
New peeve: the poster who asked a question and later revealed an intention to write an article on the subject. I admire any writer who is prepared to do some research, but I'd sure like to know about it in advance.
Here the thread in question, in case anyone missed it:
http://www.fodors.com/forums/threads...p;tid=34926192
Anselm
New peeve: the poster who asked a question and later revealed an intention to write an article on the subject. I admire any writer who is prepared to do some research, but I'd sure like to know about it in advance.
Here the thread in question, in case anyone missed it:
http://www.fodors.com/forums/threads...p;tid=34926192
Anselm
Jan 10th, 2007, 03:55 PM
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Robjame: I purposely didn't respond with a thank you because I thought one might think I was just trying to get my question topped.
Please accept my apology, I certainly do appreciate any and all responses to my questions and all the good advise from each and everyone of you out there.
I will be more considerate next time.
Please accept my apology, I certainly do appreciate any and all responses to my questions and all the good advise from each and everyone of you out there.
I will be more considerate next time.
Jan 10th, 2007, 04:06 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with topping your question even if it's just to say thanks. Sometimes additional info will be added or I find that I have missed that post. I open a lot of them and when there's something that interests me I'll add it to my journal for a later time. If no new additional info is added, it sinks pretty quickly.
Jan 10th, 2007, 04:09 PM
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suze - good answer. Thank you. LOL
Anselm - It is unethical at least to pose as something to get research
eurogals - no apology necessary but thank you anyway. This wasn't aimed at you or anyone else in particular. It is just a rant. (I hope it helped somewhat though). LOL
Anselm - It is unethical at least to pose as something to get research
eurogals - no apology necessary but thank you anyway. This wasn't aimed at you or anyone else in particular. It is just a rant. (I hope it helped somewhat though). LOL
Jan 10th, 2007, 04:25 PM
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I think there are competing sets of internet codes of conduct. On some message boards, people are discouraged from posting messages that are just thank you notes. These boards seem to be ones that stick to the facts and discourage back-and-forth conversation.
On other message boards, people are more likely to get into conversations and then begin to expect each other to follow the rules of polite behavior from the real world, such as acknowleging comments and thanking people.
This message board has people with varying expectations and experience with the internet and this probably explains some of the competing ethics.
So some people are more offended when posters don't come back to thank them, and other people are more offended when posts are topped "needlessly".
Neither of these things offends me. I recognize that there is a wide variety of folk posting here, and I am doing this for my own entertainment anyway.
On other message boards, people are more likely to get into conversations and then begin to expect each other to follow the rules of polite behavior from the real world, such as acknowleging comments and thanking people.
This message board has people with varying expectations and experience with the internet and this probably explains some of the competing ethics.
So some people are more offended when posters don't come back to thank them, and other people are more offended when posts are topped "needlessly".
Neither of these things offends me. I recognize that there is a wide variety of folk posting here, and I am doing this for my own entertainment anyway.
Jan 10th, 2007, 04:37 PM
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I think sometimes people don't know the "rules" -- and although I'm now comfortable with this Europe board bunch, one CAN feel very much the outsider, with all the back-forth chat between posters, referring to their dogs or children, using their 'real' names (i.e. Al) when their posting handle is "flyerman" etc.
Also, there is all the code here -- the DH, DS etc. (funny, men posting here never seem to refer to DW. perhaps they consider it all a bit twee, as do I). And maybe they don't even know what OP means. I didn't, when i started browsing various forums a while back.
There ought to be a clickable "FAQ about forums" that would give the definitiions of "OP" "Thread" , and my fave Fodor code, "ttt." IT could tell "here's how to get back to your original message" & maybe "Different ways to save a thread -- plusses & minuses of each."
While I'm at it, will somebody explain what a 'tinyurl" is? (I keep thinking it's a wee man of some kind, altho I guess it's a way of putting a link so it doesn't go on for lines & Lines).
Anyhoo -- this forum is fun, I have saved & shared such treasures as "Tipping the Pilot" and "Christmas Crackers". I look forward to certain posters, and hope that sometimes people look forward to my messages as well.
And YES I hate it when I've spent time sharing know-how and specifics, and it seems as if one has dropped it down a bottomless well.
Well.
Also, there is all the code here -- the DH, DS etc. (funny, men posting here never seem to refer to DW. perhaps they consider it all a bit twee, as do I). And maybe they don't even know what OP means. I didn't, when i started browsing various forums a while back.
There ought to be a clickable "FAQ about forums" that would give the definitiions of "OP" "Thread" , and my fave Fodor code, "ttt." IT could tell "here's how to get back to your original message" & maybe "Different ways to save a thread -- plusses & minuses of each."
While I'm at it, will somebody explain what a 'tinyurl" is? (I keep thinking it's a wee man of some kind, altho I guess it's a way of putting a link so it doesn't go on for lines & Lines).
Anyhoo -- this forum is fun, I have saved & shared such treasures as "Tipping the Pilot" and "Christmas Crackers". I look forward to certain posters, and hope that sometimes people look forward to my messages as well.
And YES I hate it when I've spent time sharing know-how and specifics, and it seems as if one has dropped it down a bottomless well.
Well.
Jan 10th, 2007, 04:42 PM
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www.tinyurl.com
when an url is too long it makes the screen get out of it's natural form so you go here and it will translat it to the tiny url.
I also hate the DH and other short PC terms and it took me a long time to figute them out. I still like ttt=topping
when an url is too long it makes the screen get out of it's natural form so you go here and it will translat it to the tiny url.
I also hate the DH and other short PC terms and it took me a long time to figute them out. I still like ttt=topping
Jan 10th, 2007, 04:46 PM
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<<While I'm at it, will somebody explain what a 'tinyurl" is? (I keep thinking it's a wee man of some kind, altho I guess it's a way of putting a link so it doesn't go on for lines & Lines).>> exactly ... see
www.tinyurl.com
Now it's your turn ... what is "a bit twee" - although I am sure it describes the way I feel about DH, etc.
www.tinyurl.com
Now it's your turn ... what is "a bit twee" - although I am sure it describes the way I feel about DH, etc.
Jan 10th, 2007, 04:49 PM
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I think its a little rude, especially when I do make an effort to research an answer for the op, but I don't really get too annoyed by it. I just assume that its helping at least someone on this board out, and that's what I intended for it to do.
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Jan 10th, 2007, 05:02 PM
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"Twee" if I'm not mistaken, is a Britishism for "cloying" or "quaint" or "overly sweet." You get the picture... Will some Brit please correct me if I'm wrong? (Somehow, I'm sure one will 
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Jan 10th, 2007, 05:11 PM
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Ditto all of Nikki's words.
The other thing is that a lot of people who come to this board may be new to using message boards, and may not be aware of the whole netiquette thing. Also may be assuming that the responses aren't coming from real live Joe Blow people, or whatever.
The other thing is that a lot of people who come to this board may be new to using message boards, and may not be aware of the whole netiquette thing. Also may be assuming that the responses aren't coming from real live Joe Blow people, or whatever.
Jan 10th, 2007, 05:27 PM
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I thank Suze for the reply because that is what happened to me. I posted my first message in early December and tried to find it again but couldn't. Now I am back after the holidays and just figured out how to find it, so I finally posted a reply--better late than never I am hoping. Also, since I am not a text messager, I don't know what the initials mean. Is there a dictionary? For example, what is bkm?
Jan 10th, 2007, 05:32 PM
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Is it possible you missed the thank you? When we returned from Italy I was quick to post a thank you for all the helpful information I received from this board--six posters, that I know of, saw it because they responded. I have no way of knowing if others who helped me saw my thank you. Posts have a way of quickly dropping off the radar.
