does anyone have to "sell" a particular vacation/trip to their spouse?
Oct 29th, 2003, 07:04 PM
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As incredible as it may seem to the readers of this forum, some people actually do NOT like to travel 
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Is your wife perhaps such a person, oldorch?? If so, she may go along with you just to make you happy (the way my DH does for me; he absolutely does not understand my travel bug and I do not understand his love of staying at home).
!!Is your wife perhaps such a person, oldorch?? If so, she may go along with you just to make you happy (the way my DH does for me; he absolutely does not understand my travel bug and I do not understand his love of staying at home).
Oct 29th, 2003, 07:55 PM
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Had a similar problem with Turkey (we now love it). I think it has something to do with that old movie Midnight Express. In any event, we combined our first visit with a trip to the south of Turkey and to the Greek Islands (which we love). Also got some illustrated travel books from the library. It worked. Istanbul is a fascinating city-have a wonderful trip.
Oct 29th, 2003, 09:20 PM
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I have created a monster. He will go anywhere.
We just returned and he was so bummed to have to go back to work that he put in for his next vacation the day he returned! Tickets are purchased and he now goes off each day counting down to January 21st. He litterally works to travel now.
It seems like if a couple can't agree on a (new) destination that they should take turns going where the other wants. But does the "ladies first" rule apply here? Mhmhm..
We just returned and he was so bummed to have to go back to work that he put in for his next vacation the day he returned! Tickets are purchased and he now goes off each day counting down to January 21st. He litterally works to travel now.
It seems like if a couple can't agree on a (new) destination that they should take turns going where the other wants. But does the "ladies first" rule apply here? Mhmhm..
Oct 30th, 2003, 03:37 AM
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borealis...not the case we got back from paris on oct 1th and are leaving for london (to take the orient express to venice) in 10 days. these were trips for her, now i want to go somewhere less common and she is now afraid of travel...it's maddening!!
Oct 30th, 2003, 04:15 AM
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I agree with the idea of combining Turkey with somplace else less "threatening". The Greek Isles sounds like a great idea.
As an aside, I have friends who travel constantly. They have "vacation" trips and "adventure" trips. On adventure trips they don't expect comfort/luxury but go for the experience. They're sometimes pleasantly surprised (ie Cuba)
As an aside, I have friends who travel constantly. They have "vacation" trips and "adventure" trips. On adventure trips they don't expect comfort/luxury but go for the experience. They're sometimes pleasantly surprised (ie Cuba)
Oct 30th, 2003, 08:01 AM
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I am nearly always the initiator of trips as well as the planner/ booker and I do occasionally get less enthusiastic responses from my husband.
Usually though he knows that I'm not likely to propose somewhere that he wouldn't enjoy since his enjoyment is as important to me as my own.
He does always enjoy the trips, though there are certainly some cities/ countries that we each have liked more or less than others - but it doesn't necessarily relate to levels of enthusiasm before the trip!
We enjoyed our visit to Istanbul a few years ago (despite the bomb going off just outside the restaurant in which we were eating) and would recommend it as a mid length city break (3-5 nights) but it's not somewhere either of us longs to revisit.
Kavey
Usually though he knows that I'm not likely to propose somewhere that he wouldn't enjoy since his enjoyment is as important to me as my own.
He does always enjoy the trips, though there are certainly some cities/ countries that we each have liked more or less than others - but it doesn't necessarily relate to levels of enthusiasm before the trip!
We enjoyed our visit to Istanbul a few years ago (despite the bomb going off just outside the restaurant in which we were eating) and would recommend it as a mid length city break (3-5 nights) but it's not somewhere either of us longs to revisit.
Kavey
Nov 1st, 2003, 08:36 AM
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Hi oldorch, I just came across this website that has some nice photos. Hope it helps. The mosques are breathtaking!
http://www.photomann.com/turkey/index.htm
http://www.photomann.com/turkey/index.htm
Nov 1st, 2003, 10:57 AM
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Hello, oldorch. Yes... It takes multiple hints, subtle and overt. A certain amount of begging, some veiled threats ("I might have to go without you"
, but mostly reasoning and logic. I present a list of pros and cons (which I can slightly manipulate to my advantage) and most of the time we end up going to my suggested destination. While we were in Greece some years ago I suggested we go to Turkey. Much opposition on his part but guess what... We had a great trip. Would return in a heartbeat.
, but mostly reasoning and logic. I present a list of pros and cons (which I can slightly manipulate to my advantage) and most of the time we end up going to my suggested destination. While we were in Greece some years ago I suggested we go to Turkey. Much opposition on his part but guess what... We had a great trip. Would return in a heartbeat.
Nov 1st, 2003, 02:27 PM
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I think that we should form a support group on this-but then I have always had the feeling that in every marriage there is "the planner/traveler" and the one who would "rather not go" coupling. I have had to "sell" my hubs on so many trips that I have stopped counting.I finally told him that he did not want to go with me that I would go by myself.(I did many trips by myself when I was single including Berlin,Greece and New Zealand)So I have learned to secretly plan where we are going,stay on this board,go to the library and start leaving the books out,etc. and then he gets the "BIG PICTURE". Our trip to Turkey two years ago did him in-he was sure that we were going to the land of the Midnight Express,dirty,"nothing he was interested in seeing",etc.He was working himself into a frenzy(we affectionately call him Henny Penny when he gets this way)!!!Anyway,we landed in Istanbul and the rest is history-loved the people,food,history/culture and would go back in a heartbeat!We even had him driving from Izmir to Ephesus and surrounding areas.I laugh all the time when we come back from trips that he did not want to go on and suddenly he is "the authority" on that area. My advice for your wife is to take out the travel tapes from your library;perhaps a Turkish restaurant in your area for a dinner and anything that would inspire her to want to go to Turkey.I would also throw in that the Grand Bazaar will be an experience to have if she is a shopper? Now if you could help convince my hubs of our next trip to South Africa or Australia?
Nov 1st, 2003, 08:27 PM
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I know the feeling dutyfree! I've always been the travel nut, while my husband's idea of an exotic vacation was a Caribbean island with a casino. When we got married, i warned him that i would drag his butt around the world and though he complained at first, he's starting to like it. Haven't been to the more exotic locations yet (my idea of exotic anyway) as I'm trying to work him up to that point. He does seem to find a casino wherever we go though. Didn't realize London & Costa Rica had casinos 'til we went!
Anyway, i like Koshka's idea. We usually compromise (hence the casinos) or take turns picking vacations, which is why i've been on a couple of cruises - even though I'm not a cruise fan (feel like i'm 'trapped' on a boat).
Anyway, i like Koshka's idea. We usually compromise (hence the casinos) or take turns picking vacations, which is why i've been on a couple of cruises - even though I'm not a cruise fan (feel like i'm 'trapped' on a boat).
Nov 2nd, 2003, 03:24 AM
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Oldorch -
I just got back from Istanbul this past thursday - I'm single however. BUT.... as I was getting out of my taxi at my hotel, two very good friends, who are partners, walked up to the taxi and shouted 'surprise'. They had decided not to let me celebrate my 40th alone. I was shocked they were there because I thought they had similar opinions about Istanbul like your wife. They left Istanbul blown away - the history, the food (they're discerning eaters), the night life, the Bosphorus - they really enjoyed themselves. I'll be posting my trip report soon.
I just got back from Istanbul this past thursday - I'm single however. BUT.... as I was getting out of my taxi at my hotel, two very good friends, who are partners, walked up to the taxi and shouted 'surprise'. They had decided not to let me celebrate my 40th alone. I was shocked they were there because I thought they had similar opinions about Istanbul like your wife. They left Istanbul blown away - the history, the food (they're discerning eaters), the night life, the Bosphorus - they really enjoyed themselves. I'll be posting my trip report soon.
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