xxx

<BR><BR>I once read a comment from a therapist that those couples he sees who never fight also have the least passionate sex lives. If true, perhaps passion is something that exists in all areas of a relationship, including passionate arguing. <BR><BR>Anyway, I've always felt that fighting, per se, is not a problem. It all depends on how a couple fights.

xxx

We argue even when we're at home. Just a normal part of relationships-everyone argues.

Rich

<BR><BR>Never Argue . . we have a clear division of responsibilities . . <BR><BR>She is responsible for the little things, I for the big things.<BR><BR>She is responsible for where we live, where we go, how we spend our money and how we get there.<BR><BR>I on the other hand, am responsible for the conduct of any attack on Iraq, International monetary policy, and National politics . . . works great!<BR><BR>Rich

Gary

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xox

It is hard to be with anyone every minute of the day as vacations seems to place us. I try my best to go out of the way not to argue! Two week is a long time to be stuck with a pouting husband!

doc

Who pouts for 2 weeks on vacaton? Sure,my wife and I argue on trips, but if I was stuck with a pouter for 2 weeks, I would stay home.

XXX

What sad lives some of you live. When it is difficult for a person to be &quot;stuck&quot; with their spouse for two weeks, I can't imagine why in the world they ever married to begin with, or why they stay together.<BR><BR>I'm not talking about having an argument. That's a normal part of any relationship. I'm talking to the ones who really can't seem to stand being alone or having to travel with their spouse. Or the married couples who can't seem to agree on who should do anything.

Pam

Isn't this part of vacationing? The arguments tend to be about driving vs navigating and whose lot is the harder. I will say we knew we had reached either some new height in our relationship or some new low in how lost we had become when we joined forces to find our way home (being really lost) while driving in Italy. This says it all.

Snoopy

It's raining, it's getting dark, we can't find the hotel and we are both hungry . . . If this never happens we don't argue.

Pierrette

We argue so much on trips that the next one I go on is with a friend (girl) for one month in Provence. He couldn't care less about blowing our budget for one restaurant meal. I plan months ahead so we can go to a few really nice restaurants but he won't even look at the cost and just goes to the closest one always regardless of the cost. He drives me crazy!

Kelley

It's funny this post should pop up right now. I was just mentioning to my husband that it would be nice for him to sit down with me and go over the massive amounts of information I have accrued for our upcoming month long trip to Spain.<BR>He thinks I'm a bit obsessive about all the planning and researching I do prior to a big trip. Okay, I'll admit to that, but I enjoy the process. I usually do all the planning once we have decided on a destintion. I find the hotels, plan day trips and locate points of interest, restaurants, etc. The agenda is not set in stone and can be adjusted depending on what we feel like doing at any given time. I just like lots of options. He tells me he has other things to do besides sitting around planning a trip that is 6 months away. Call me silly....I look at it as wow, only 6 months left to plan. I accept that is is my choice to think this way. To his credit....He will eventually (prior to our plane departure) take the time to read about the areas we will visit. <BR>Fortunatey, we are very compatible and rarely argue. Although we may have a couple of heated &quot;discussions&quot; while traveling, we always have a good time.

Martin

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Thyra

Nope we don't argue at all.. either on trips or off them... we are both *shudder* passive aggressives.. and we tend to get sullen and fussy if we are unhappy. Usually a combo of jet lag and confusion leads to at least a morning or two of &quot;cranky&quot; interaction. But we've never had a knock-down drag out.. in fact in the 9 years we've been together we've only had 1 yelling match.. but don't let that fool you, the sullen pouty thing can be just as horrible, and it usually lasts longer as nothing get resolved... but luckily for me, I gave up trying to get my spouse excited about a trip until the plane takes off, and he's gotten used to my incessant worrying about everything until the plane takes off.. once we land, he is very happy with our hotels, and I am really glad that he is around to locate them.

Erica

I'm enjoying this topic tremendously.<BR><BR>My husband and I have worked out the 'kinks' in how to enjoy each other and our trips.<BR><BR>We both enjoy solitude and both enjoy each other. But 24/7 for 2 or 3 weeks left no breathing room. We'd have small arguments almost as if to distance ourselves from each other so as to have some time alone. <BR><BR>One can even feel quite alone in a small rental car if there's a 'chill' in the air.<BR><BR>We sort of adapted the policy over the years of going our separate ways in the morning and coming together for the rest of the day.<BR><BR>That way, we have the best of both worlds: solitude and each other.<BR><BR>It's worked for us.

ashamed

Still feel terrible about yelling a four-letter word (actually, a couple of them) at my husband outside Cathedrale Notre Dame..he had just discovered that he hadn't brought any film. I planned the trip down to last detail...where to stay, tours, dining, shopping etc. All he had to do was keep track of pictures. And forgot film!! Wonder if it's a sin to swear like a sailor so close to a place of worship?

Don'tUnderstand

Ashamed - <BR><BR>I could understand if you were in an isolated place with no film to be found - but outside of Notre Dame? There are several places within spitting distance that sell film. Was it worth cursing him out?

Carolyn

Add us to the planner vs. go with the flow type of couple. I love the planning of the trip (researching hotels, attractions, things to do or see, ....) I do the research for hotels, then go over the top 5 with my husband &amp; then finallize the plans. When it comes to when we get there, I just make a list of things available, then we pick &amp; choose each morning what we can do that day. We still sometimes need some time apart (even for only 30 minutes.) but I would not go with out my best travel companion!

Sherry

I don't blame &quot;Ashamed&quot; for cursing. I'm one of those who does all the bloody planning - &amp; I keep trying to &quot;train&quot; my husband to be responsible for bringing at least 1 thing. This last trip he forgot his blood pressure pills &amp; it was a problem getting more.<BR>The prior trip (to a campground) he forgot the hot dogs for the picnic (&amp; all the stores were closed).<BR>Maybe Ashamed &amp; I should go back to doing 100%.

xxx

Only when he is driving and gets lost. Hubby has this annoying habit of getting very lost, then mad and eventually stopping and asking for directions. The last time this happended, he stopped at a gas station and then told me to jump out and go ask for directions. I cursed him out like a dog and told him that he could go in and ask for directions, since he was the reason we were lost, as he insisted that I was reading the map wrong. Needless to say, he later apologized and the rest of the trip was fine. I now do the driving and we seem to have less bickering on the road.

mimi taylor

I don't know how I missed this thread first time around. We fight for the usual male trait=not wanting to stop and ask for directions.<BR>And John G., you got my chuckles again.