Now that you mention it, the only men traveling together groups I know or hear of are organized around an activity such as golf, baseball games, hunting/fishing treks, and the like, or maybe a weekend in Las Vegas. I don't think it's just a Fodors board phenomenon.

macanimals,

We were posting at the same time.

It's interesting you wouldn't consider a trip with male friends a "success." I honestly don't think about it one way or the other.

I don't think it's just posting habits. Plenty of men come here to ask questions about their family trips. But there are scads and scads of tour companies offering tours to women -- and almost none to men. I know women feel less safe -- for good reasons. But I am surprised how often women come on here and ask questions about a perfectly safe and conventional itinerary -- like, a week in London -- and feel compelled to identify themselves as females.

annw,

Yes, that's my impression. Although I do know a great many men who would and have traveled culturally by themselves, before they were married. And a few who traveled with one other bud. But that usually ends with marriage.

Why would men travel together if it wasn't for sports. To go to museums?? Oh guys, come over here and look at the pickasso. =;

If we're going, were going for sports. And beer. And we can find those without asking here. =; =; =;

Almost all my male friends are artists of one sort or another: paint, sculpt, musicians. None play sports other than fitness activity. None drink beer. All drink wine. All of us have spent the majority of our time together in museums, and it would be very common for them to meet another male friend in the cities where they live in the US to go to a museum exhibit.

But I would be surprised if four of them decided to pick up without their wives and go cultural sightseeing for a week. Although a few of them who no longer live in the same city will sometimes arrange get togethers in one of their homes for long weekends, etc., just to sit around and catch up with each other's work -- and often some of the wives skip those get-togethers.

But almost all the women have traveled with other women for cultural sightseeing abroad.

Although I suppose we could go to a sports museum. Or a beer museum. We are not against museums per se.

All my male friends save one choose museums and concerts or in some cases theatre over sports events. (The one exception is British soccer maniac, in addition to being a maniac for art museums, historic churches, concerts, theatre etc in London).

I may be unusual in knowing so many men who prefer cultural activity to sports and beer. But it's plain to me reading travel reports written by men on Fodor's that many men do not travel for sports and beer, and wouldn't ever, even if they were traveling with other men. But they don't travel with other men, not even to do the cultural activities they enjoy doing when they aren't traveling (and often enjoy with male friends).

Bingo !

We have a new record by Zeppole--breaking her own record.
Would you believe 15 posts in the same thread in just over one hour--and all well after midnight in Italy. When do you sleep, and are you taking your meds?

My trip with Ed was not a " fishing" trip. It was a trip to see and visit fishing villages on the coast--much different.

Male DNA is configured in such a way as to NEVER ask questions. Men NEVER ask directions.

They just buy a GPS instead, get lost, and then request their female travelling companion to ask for directions.

I speak with authority here - I NEVER ask directions.
But I've seen some interesting sights while lost.

bobthenavigator: "<i>We have a new record by Zeppole--breaking her own record.

Would you believe 15 posts in the same thread in just over one hour</i>"

That's the middle distance record. She also set a sprint record - 5 consecutive posts in 10 minutes 7:21-7:31. The old record was 4 set on 256 different occasions . . . . .

Women need advice and tour guides.
Men give advice and are tour guides.

Women will walk down Champs-Elysees and ask for directions to the Arc de Triomphe twice. Just to be on the safe side.
Men will stand in front of a building in Salzburg and tell their family that that was the place where Mozart played the piano in public first time - next to an inscript on the wall saying "erected 1810".

Only 2 groups of men go on holiday together - stag parties & golf parties.

The only directions they need is "where's the bar"

What alanRow said. On the Munich boards at Trip Advisor, there are often posts about where to go/where to party for a stag party in Munich.

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Do you remember double dating when you were in college? Neither girl would go to the WC without the other one. Why do they do that? It must be a mammal gender thing. Cows can graze in the same pasture but bulls gotta fight.

Some men I know also go hunting and fishing together. I guess they don't talk until they start drinking.

I go solo on my trips to Europe. I meet locals and other travelers, have a good time, and adios. A partner, male or female, would just slow me down. I go to Europe to experience the place, not to yakky yak with someone I already know.

spaarne, you made me laugh! I swear I was 30 yrs old before I realized that I had, for decades, been missing out on clues that it was time for a pee party.


I used to travel solo, couldn't imagine doing it differently. If I was feeling uncertain, I'd read or pack a guidebook, then mostly go look around and see for myself.
Since becoming a mama--another adventure I'm undertaking on my own--I haven't traveled that way. My son and I have always communicated constantly, and if I would've had to figure out a place to stay or even where to go for an afternoon nap or when the museum was closed when he was a baby/toddler, it would've been a disaster. I would've been stressed, forgotten something or missed him dropping an item on the street. He would've felt my tension and raised it by getting upset... He's older now (just started 1st grade!) so I can certainly tell him to hang on a minute, let me figure this out, but I still am more comfortable traveling with him after having done too much research, generally start a file 3 to 18 mos in advance, throw things in as I come across them, then sit down and map them all out a few weeks before the trip. It's also fun these days to involve him (a bit) in trip planning--after I've done my groundwork and can offer a choice of 2 or 3 options that take similar amounts of time, energy and money--space museum or cultural history. Having done the research also lets me offer him choices on the fly--don't want to go to the restaurant? There's a park right over there with food vendors or whatever.

If other folks feel the same about their joint childcare/trip leader responsibilities, and if women are more involved in childrearing than men, then it makes sense that more women would be trying to plan trips.

Bob and Janis, thanks for your joking comments re: p. I won't wonder any more what's with her or if it's just me!

Peter, but you are here posting on Fodor's -- although when I think about it, you mostly direct others about Venice. Did you ask questions on Fodor's before you went?

Cowboy, most of the tour guides I have seen everywhere I've traveled are women. But I think you're on to something with the rest your post.

alan and swandav, I don't know any men who go to stag parties, but I do think there is something about travel that makes men who otherwise frequently get together with male friends to attend concerts, see art exhibits, have dinner in a gourmet restaurant, etc. NOT do exactly the same thing if it involves spending nights out of town.

spaarne, whenever I've needed to use the WC, I just went, alone if need be, even in college. And the men I know don't fight with each other or compete much. But I also think solo travel is fun -- and I think there are plenty of men who feel the same.

saacnmama, what is WITH bob and janisj? -- other than I contradict their terribly conformist travel advice all the time? And what is with you for turning as mean-spirited and sneering as them? Both of them are Fodor's addicts who are on Fodor's every single night and day recycling the same Americanized tour information over and over and over -- bob with cut and paste cliches and janis with energizer bunny nattering about Priceline and carryon -- and no one who wants to do something differing is spared their slapdowns.

I haven't had somebody try to set a bedtime for me since I was 11. But that's who bob and janis are as Fodor's posters -- everybody's clucking parent, telling them not to do anything that isn't done by them and the older generation. Looks like, saacmama, you're now identifying yourself totally as a mother, right down to your screen name, and headed the same way, building a world view consumed by parenting. Don't be surprised if your kid rebels, stays up late and races far ahead of your small world view.

Yes, bob and janisj: I think more and faster than you, and engage more directly with what's in front of my nose. And I guess I don't need as much sleep. Do you two really ever get out of the house -- or even out of your own heads for a second? People aren't all the same -- and they are not crazy if they're not like you. Why do you travel, I wonder. Never mind -- I'm not that interested.

By the way, living in Italy, it is striking how often you see groups of men socializing in fine restaurants or cafes, especially groups of men who are apparently related to each other. But also just male friends catching up. I have no idea if they travel together.

And in France, it's mostly couples.

I'm putting up separate posts here so bob and janisj have something to marvel at.

You couldn't get any of my male friends to go on a trip like that either. I think one would go for Cricket or Soccer (although in that case, his wife would be quite sad to be left out of the soccer trip, and they'd probably want her along since she's so knowledgable.) Some of my male friends, when on business-type trips, will take time with male colleagues to go to the local art museum or historic church. In Milano, I've often seen groups of men in business suits stopping to marvel at the facade of the Duomo and discuss it before hurrying on to lunch. And they didn't look embarrassed to be doing it.

But for sure, the all-male trips you describe don't sound like the type to inspire the travellers to come on this board and ask "How many pairs of socks should we pack and any good restaurant recommendations?"

PS: I think of some of the fair-sex who post censoriously on this board as the Old Fallopian Tubes.