Do Italian women like American men?

Oct 6th, 2012, 05:30 AM
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Oh - and after looking at your photo - do be careful to try to strike up relationships with appropriate women of adult years. The absolutely adorable 22 year olds that are out there are looking for a guy who is 30, tall, dark and handsome - and preferably driving a Ferrari and taking them to the best restaurants and upscale resorts.

My B had a lot of trouble finding an appropriate girlfriend here in the US - because he was going to bars and looking at the cutest little chickies in the place. They would let him buy them a drink - but often not more and he never got beyond the first date. The problem was - by that time he was in his late 30s, had come out of a bad relationship and while he had a good job and a little sports car - couldn't provide what these girls were looking for. I had a heart to heart with him one night - and he finally admitted while they were really cute - but also mostly fairly boring. So finally he took my advice to look for a woman in his own age group that he actually had something in common with - rather than just someone hot looking. He ended up being set up with - and marrying - a women in the book club with his best friend's wife. Granted she won't be on the cover of Cosmo - but although he's good looking for a regular person (tall, fit, bright blue eyes and all his hair though it's graying), he won't be on the cover of GQ. They have been married for almost 15 years now and are very compatible and happy. And she has a job and doesn't expect him to be the only one supporting her in the way she wants to become accustomed to.
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Oct 6th, 2012, 05:45 AM
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texas_son, you don't come off as stated above. You seem to be just a guy looking for companionship.

Yep, travelgourmet, you're right. That is timeless advice that women have fallen for endlessly. Maybe texas_son would like a thinking woman and not one so mired in her own ego that she needs someone to kick it in. Yet, if that's not true, you're advice should reign.

Learning Italian is way too much effort for a casual fling but it's not for a memorable trip but I'm being wayyyy to serious here. As I often am about travel.

(you should have seen my reaction the other day when an aquaintance mentioned she was going on a cruise at the end of the year and asked me where she could get a passport!)
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Oct 6th, 2012, 05:54 AM
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That is timeless advice that women have fallen for endlessly.

While offered in jest, one should never underestimate the divergence between what women say they want and what they actually go for.

Maybe texas_son would like a thinking woman and not one so mired in her own ego that she needs someone to kick it in.

Never confuse intellect with confidence or emotional stability.
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Oct 6th, 2012, 06:48 AM
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texas_son,
ToRetain as so far the BEST advice of ALL..
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Oct 6th, 2012, 06:55 AM
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"Now remember my three beginner’s tips for picking up chicks: Address her by name, isolate her from her friends, subtly put her down."

And don't confuse intellect and money with being a decent person with any redeeming qualities.
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Oct 6th, 2012, 04:53 PM
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Speaking as a woman who enjoys beauty in any form, I saw some of the most beautiful men ever in Venice. One in particular but he absolutely knew it. While I was looking at the guy, my hub was admiring they way Italian men kept a jacket thrown over their shoulders without its falling off.

So do Italian women like American men? In general, why would they need to?
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Oct 6th, 2012, 05:12 PM
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>>In general, why would they need to?<<

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Oct 6th, 2012, 05:34 PM
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"In general, why would they need to?"

Because there are Italian women who know how those coats stay on their shoulders.

Because there are Italian women who enjoy the energy and openess of the American guys.

Because you just never know...

I think texas_son sounds like a nice person who is just trying to feel his way back into dating again. And imo, there are women every where who want to meet a nice man.

"would like a thinking woman and not one so mired in her own ego that she needs someone to kick it in."

"Never confuse intellect with confidence or emotional stability."

I would never make that mistake tg. A woman who is mired by her own ego is open prey to a guy who would insult her.
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Oct 6th, 2012, 06:14 PM
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I don't know if Italian Women like American men.

After living in Italy for 2 years, I can definately confirm Italian men LOVE American women.

They don't care about their Catholic upbinging, how old the American woman is or how old the Italian man is, if she is married, or if the Italian man still lives with his Mother (and many do!)
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Oct 6th, 2012, 06:49 PM
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I am amused reading the various replies to see how many posters considers themselves experts of the Italian culture, customs and conventional ways of thinking..
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Oct 6th, 2012, 06:52 PM
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I don't think I'm an expert on Italian culture, customs etc. I am knowledgeable about human nature, once we get past the window dressing, that doesn't change much.
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Oct 6th, 2012, 06:55 PM
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TDudette wrote:

"So do Italian women like American men? In general, why would they need to?"

Exactly what I've been thinking since the beginning of the thread.
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Oct 6th, 2012, 08:29 PM
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There's an Italian woman on this board who loved an American man very much, still does apparently. Has a lovely story about it.
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Oct 6th, 2012, 08:34 PM
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kissmtchimera...don't consider myself an expert as not Italian but after 2 years of hilarious "experieinces" while
living in Italy I know enough to respond to the question in reverse. Not once has anthing like the examples below happened to me in US or any other country. My DH just thinks my experiences were funny. I swore I was going to dye my blond hair black!

While I lived in Italy, our car was damamged badly in shipping and had to take it to a car painter. He kept trying to get me into the back room to look at his "engine". I brought my husband, a strapping imposing man in US military Officer uniform the next time...needless to say, painter's eyes got big and he became an instant gentleman. ;-)

Another time, a very, very elderly man was sitting on the curb with a cane. As I walked by he motioned for me to come nearer. When I bent over to hear him, he pinched me very hard in the rear. The next time I saw him I detoured a block not to give him any "encouragement".

Sometimes the US Military ship would go on R&R cruises for the crew. I would take the Italian overnight ferry and meet my DH in port. On everyone of my Italian overnight ferry trips, as soon as the ferry left the dock, the Italian men tried to buy us American women drinks and try to "come" to our room. They would actually follow us so that we had to devise detours & the buddy system.Caziest hide & seek I ever played.

One of my last days, in front of a Carabinieri office a Fiat came to a screeching halt in front of me and fthree doors swung open. The "gentlemen" tried to grab me, saying "we want to invite you for Formagio & Vino" and stuff me in the car while the Carabinieri were laughing. By that time I had learned several slang words in Italian and laid it on them...and after I told them I had various communicable diseases they did not think I was such a "catch" and Carabinieri told them to "run away quickly".
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Oct 7th, 2012, 07:12 AM
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The thing that's missing in this equasion is time. Two weeks traveling through three destinations (and where you don't speak the language) really doesn't give you time to meet anyone. Not saying it couldn't happen, but it's a long-shot at best.

Now if you were living in Italy, then certainly you'd have a chance.
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