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Bed & Breakfast Etiquette - Does one tip?

Old Sep 6th, 2013, 10:36 AM
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Mmeperdu - likewise
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 11:12 AM
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Jamikins, I think generally in life when we run across people who annoy us I try keep myself in line by reminding myself that in all likelihood the feeling is mutual, that they're probably also annoyed by me. So I think it must necessarily apply to forums too. In this case my personal plan will be to continue to enjoy those I've enjoyed in the past while just accepting on this one that we disagree.
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 11:17 AM
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Haha funny thing is I am not angry at all. I really don't care...I just find it frustrating when locals say what the local custom is and people argue against it.

But yes, let's agree to disagree. To be honest I had never heard of tipping housekeeping until recently and I am from Canada. I have asked my friends and family back at home previously and not one would even think of tipping housekeeping so I bet there have been many workers in American hotels who have thought badly of us as Canadians!
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 11:25 AM
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My guess is that the majority of Americans don't tip housekeeping staff in the US either.

I haven't been arguing against your customs or trying to convince anyone to change, really only reporting that I like to do it. I don't think it hurts anyone and if I thought it did I'd certainly stop.
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 12:51 PM
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As a Brit who sometimes leaves a modest tip as a reward for good service, I am particularly confused by the idea of tipping hosuekeeping staff.

Firstly, the job is very much carried out to instructions from the management, and the individual member of staff has very little discretion about how they do it.

Mostly though, as a hotel guest, you have very little interaction with the house-keeping staff, and may in fact never see them at all. If you leave tip because they did their job well, you cannot know if the tip will be collected by the same person. How would you feel if, after leaving a tip, you realised that the tip was collected by someone who then did the job badly?
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Old Sep 6th, 2013, 01:08 PM
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Gordon

Any restaurant north of Watford would be laughed out of existence should it try the service charge scam.

2008 put a stop to that scam.
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Old Sep 9th, 2013, 12:59 PM
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Great to know tipping isn't the norm for B&B's in London as I'm staying in one next month.
Tipping is expected everywhere in the USA because the minimum wage is equivalent to slave wages. A waitress, working full time, is expected to live on a salary of $2.13/hour here in South Carolina. That's $85/week.
Can you possibly imagine that???
You can argue all you want that she should get a better job, the government should raise the min wage, etc, etc...
So yes, that 15% tip you leave at a restaurant may be the difference between her kid eating that night or not.
But don't worry, while I'm in London, I won't tip a sou!
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Old Sep 9th, 2013, 01:06 PM
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I am curious as a Canadian and a Brit...why are the wages so low...don't you have minimum wage?
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Old Sep 9th, 2013, 01:18 PM
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If you leave a tip on a cc in the UK it is liable to be taken by the restaurant, not passed on to the staff.
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Old Sep 9th, 2013, 01:26 PM
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Jamikins, yes there is a minimum wage but...each state sets it's own wage rate.

So it ranges from $4.00/hour to $9/hour.
And some states have an exemption for wait staff. They factor in 15% tip and SUBTRACT that from the hour wage. Which is why, in my state, a waitress earns only $2.13 an hour on her paycheck.

I can't express enough how I wish we would pay our wait staff (and other min wage earners) a REAL living wage and not expect the customer to make up the difference.
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Old Sep 9th, 2013, 01:27 PM
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Sorry, got that wrong, they made it illegal 4 years ago as it was so common.
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Old Sep 9th, 2013, 11:07 PM
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illegal but not impossible
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Old Sep 9th, 2013, 11:59 PM
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Maybe the staff who receive tips in the US are happy to be paid such a small basic wage as their income tax bill will be correspondingly minimal. If tips are paid mainly in cash, how much gets declared?
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Old Sep 10th, 2013, 10:57 AM
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I appreciate the knowledge. My wife and I are planning our first trip overseas, we're going to Ireland. I've worked in the restaurant industry here in the states and consider myself a very good tipper. I had no idea that it was not the norm in other Western countries. It will be hard for me not to tip, as that's become a habit for me, but I do think that "when in Rome" should rule the day so I'll do my best to abide by the customs of Ireland or whatever country we visit.
If I do tip, please excuse it as forgetfulness and habit, not meant as an insult.
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Old Sep 10th, 2013, 11:03 AM
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" I had no idea that it was not the norm in other Western countries."

As this will be your first trip overseas, don't assume that everything will be similar to what you're used to in the US.
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Old Sep 10th, 2013, 11:07 AM
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No doubt. I know many things will be different, this was just one that I guess I never really thought about.
We're looking forward to it. I'm sure I'll be on here posting a lot of questions.
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Old Sep 10th, 2013, 12:02 PM
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"The practice has spread largely in my view as a result of the large number of US tourists visiting London. End result is that we locals are pressured into paying even more exhorbitant prices for eating out. "

Gordon and all others, I vow to continue doing my part the next time I'm in London or anywhere in Europe to help out in any way that I can't.

I'd appreciate you importing your customs to the US. Employers should pay their people a livable wage and if it means more to the consumer, so bet it. Maybe then servers will quit coming to the table and introducing themselves and pestering me about my enjoyment of the food. They don't really care they just want us to clear the table for the next "tip"
grrrr
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Old Sep 10th, 2013, 01:27 PM
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From what I gather from the above, many servers at posh restaurants are quite happy with the system. They are fleecing the customers for % tips of huge bills which leaves the, with income which are disproportionate to the value they add.

My parents fell out with an American couple they were friendly with, over a tipping incident in Washington. The bill for 4 of them, at some trendy joint, came to around $500. My Dad thought the meal in British restaurant would have been worth half that. Their American friends started a huge push to leave a 25% the restaurant's fashionable status. They haven't spoken since!
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Old Sep 11th, 2013, 08:16 AM
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Dickie, it would appear then that they were friendly but not friends. Most friends don't fall out after 1 disagreement so maybe not much lost for either couple.
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