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1st trip to Paris, but Boyfirend has been many times and wants to mix it up

1st trip to Paris, but Boyfirend has been many times and wants to mix it up

Oct 26th, 2012, 05:52 PM
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Consider Amsterdam if you like museums (it will be cold, so all that relaxing hanging out by a canal will be minimal). There's buckets of art and history in Amsterdam.

I have lucked out with some fantastic weather in Rome during winter a couple of times. I live in San Francisco and it wasn't much, if any, colder than here. But that was just luck. Rome is buzzing any time of year.

Agree with Christina that "NON-touristy" will be difficult if you speak no French and are, in fact, tourists. Just go see what you think sounds interesting--do some reading--and don't worry about how touristy or "inauthentic" anything is.

I am contemplating Sevilla for this holiday season if I can get away from work. Haven't been since I was a child.
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Oct 26th, 2012, 06:01 PM
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Ohhh...how could I forget. When I was in my early 30s I had a job where our vacation time did not roll over. We had to use it or lose it by the end of January. So one January I flew to Marseille, trained to Aix-en-Provence, spent a day and night there, trained to Carcassonne and spent two nights there, then trained to Arles for three nights. It was freaking cold and I got sick and I was solo, but I had a marvelous time!

So go where appeals. If you're open-minded and curious, you'll have a fab time.
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Oct 26th, 2012, 06:34 PM
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I think you can approach non-touristy and authentic by perhaps renting an apartment. You aren't really affected by the tourist experience (no hotel staff, no fellow travellers) and get to shop for food (I find foreign supermarkets thrilling) and see what life as a local is like for a few days. The language barrier is not really an issue because mostly you can work out what foods are which with pictures and minimal language skills.You can still do the restaurant thing if you want to. Most apartments come pre-loaded with enough brochures and maps to see you right, and you should obviously do your own research beforehand about appropriate sites to visit.

If you click on Kerouac's name, he does some fantastic photo-reports in and around Paris (he's a local) and you might be able to follow in his footsteps for some non-typical but interesting experiences.

As for where to visit afterwards, if you are thinking about Bruges, fit in a day or two in Brussels and Ghent. It's all very close to Paris, accessible by train. (Thalys). Or northern France (Metz, Lille, even Nancy). Just bring an umbrella, the weather is often inclement in Belgium (museums are the answer).

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Oct 26th, 2012, 06:43 PM
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If you've never set foot in Paris before, why on earth are you trying to find a "non-touristy" experience? Don't you want to see the Tour Eiffel, Notre Dame, the Arc de Triomphe, the Louvre, Sainte-Chapelle, etc.? You're going to go to Paris for the first time in your life and...do what, exactly? Wander around the périphérique seeing block apartments and the Stade de France? Why on earth won't your "experienced" boyfriend show you what everyone who heads to Paris for the first time wants to see?
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Oct 26th, 2012, 07:14 PM
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I suggest Amsterdam for a few nights. Great trendy restaurants, English is spoken by most, canals are romantically beautiful, people are friendly, prices aren't bad, nice shops.

We stayed at the Hotel Residence le Coin for 5 nights, and loved it. You can take easy day-trips from Amsterdam to see windmills, gouda being made, a huge inland lake, small towns.
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Oct 26th, 2012, 07:15 PM
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Forgot to say-- we took the train from Paris to Amsterdam.
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Oct 26th, 2012, 08:01 PM
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Are you foregoing the main "touristy attractions" just for the boyfriend? People have gone to this city many times and her charms are always exciting.

You're getting ripped off here. Let's reiterate what St Cirq said, "Don't you want to see the Tour Eiffel, Notre Dame, the Arc de Triomphe, the Louvre, Sainte-Chapelle, etc.? You're going to go to Paris for the first time in your life and...do what, exactly? Wander around the périphérique seeing block apartments and the Stade de France?"

Your boyfriend should want to show you this exciting romantic city. Let him go to the pet cemetary, so while you're in Paris you can look for a new boyfriend.
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Oct 27th, 2012, 09:55 AM
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That's a bit harsh. The BF has apparently been to Paris several times. He wants to see something new.

Your compromise sounds good-- spend days in Paris and see what you want to see, then go to another city you both will see for the first time.
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Oct 27th, 2012, 10:01 AM
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It is possible to see the main sights and also discover new things in the same trip.
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Oct 27th, 2012, 12:40 PM
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Okay PeaceOut, you're right it was a too flippant. Still Paris is a beautiful city and there are other things to see, yet not as grand as the major sites. Exploring the area around the Sacred Coeur was just as delightful as the site itself.


The OP should click on Kerouac's name and follow the suggestions there. My husband and I went to the Parc de la Villette while in Paris but we had a special interest. Yes, I enjoyed it but it was not stunning.

Still, not wanting to show someone you love a great city because you've been there before hardly sounds fair.

I think this is said of London but it’s applies and the woman should take heed.
“The man who is bored of Paris is bored with life.”
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Oct 27th, 2012, 01:21 PM
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I have been to Paris over 15 times and I STILL want to see some of the "old" sights, and as someone pointed out, you can always see something new on the way. I thing BF needs an attitude adjustment --and take that with a big motherly smile!!
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Oct 28th, 2012, 01:58 AM
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I would suggest Amsterdam. It's just under 3 hours by train from Paris. If language is a worry, English is spoken everywhere in the city. We were there on an overnight trip from Paris in February. The city was cold, but bright and we were able to walk everywhere and take the tram when necessary. You could stop in Bruges and then head to Amsterdam as well.
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Oct 28th, 2012, 04:36 AM
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You have beemn invited to join your BFs parents in Paris. If you accept, you owe them some time in Paris, perhaps visiting some of the things they visit.

Then, off to another place as your BF wishes. That being the case, he should give a little input.
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Oct 28th, 2012, 09:48 AM
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Geeze, I've been to Paris several times and always like to see one or two new things, but I still thrill to the sight of the Eiffel tour, still want to see Notre Dame, visit the Louvre and so many other places that are somewhat familiar.

When I travel with friends, one of the joys is showing them places I already love and seeing the look on their faces when they see something for the first time. It allows me to experience it anew.

I hope your BF can get into that mode and share your excitement rather than withholding that opportunity from you. Honestly, I personally think it would be quite sad (even a bit selfish IMHO) if he couldn't get a kick out of giving that to you.

You might consider Barcelona for your extra time. It will be cold, but it is an interesting city.
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Oct 28th, 2012, 05:06 PM
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Since it doesn't look likely that the OP is coming back to this topic, poor girl. Hope she has a good time anyway.
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Oct 29th, 2012, 01:02 AM
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Barcelona?
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