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Cruiser who had terrible people assigned to my table at dinner

Nov 25th, 2002, 03:46 AM
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I enjoy sitting at a large table and meeting new friends.I can recall only one unpleasant experience a number of years ago aboard the Cunard Countess.We were in the first week of two back to back cruises and most of the ship had been chartered by Hewlitt Packard Ltd. for an employee holiday and we were lucky?? enough to be seated with a table of HP employees.Well, we didn't exactly fit in with this group things were a little stuffy.Mid way through the week the snobbiest gentleman at the table commented, with smirks all around, that we(the yanks) were celebrating the 4th of July holiday,the day that "THEY GAVE US OUR FREEDOM".I politely mentioned that the way that I remembered it we kicked their a$$e$ and took our freedom.We were treated very nicely by the rest of our dinner companions for the balance of the week and Mr & Mrs Snob were all but ignored by their co-workers.
Nov 26th, 2002, 10:18 AM
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I was once on a 13-day cruise on QE2 at a table of eight. I mostly enjoyed our meals/conversations; but one night I just felt like I needed a break, so I skipped dinner and just sat at the bar in my tux and had a great time talking with all kinds of people!

But, boy, did I have a hang-over the next day!

Aug 15th, 2003, 07:51 PM
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My first ever cruise was on Princess through the Panama Canal. I was traveling with a gay friend. We were seated at a table of 6 where we were expected to eat all 3 meals, unless we ate at the on deck buffet for breakfast or dinner (coffee was 100% better in the dining room).

At first the other couples assumed we were "together", but as my friend became irked with one of the men,
a doctor, and vice versa, over the course of 16 DAYS and became more and more flamboyant to annoy him, the others got the picture. The fact that my (former) friend tended to be late for dinner every night, and the waiter would not take the others' orders until we arrived was one of the issues. We instructed the waiter to proceed without us, and eliminated that problem (and now I realize making his job much harder), but I still remember the situation as so unpleasant that I would never allow myself to have specific seating for a long trip again! I have taken several other "foo foo ship" cruises, and I have had better luck with groups at tables of 8 or 10 since then, where conversation was active & we would enjoy telling the others about our experiences of the day, but everyone was always much older than me and this situation wouldn't be for everyone. Eating at a table for 2 was never inviting, as I wanted to meet people.

If I "cruise" now, it's on Windjammer Barefoot Cruises, where I started out "cruising". I also just came home from a River Cruise of the Rhine and Moselle on Uniworld, which has open seating. If I ever cruise again, it would have to be with an "open seating" arrangement.
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Aug 17th, 2003, 04:57 AM
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I have had bad experiences but always asked to change and was accomodated.

Once my single girlfriend and I were seated at a table with two honeymoon couples from Spain who did not speak any English. When we were told there were no tables available, we simply went and stood in the dining room entrance until they "found" one for us.

I don't worry about hurting other people's feelings by changing tables. It is my vacation too and I enjoy dining with fun people.

I do not care for open dining like Personal Choice or Freestyle.
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Aug 18th, 2003, 06:27 AM
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Must wonder who defines "terrible" and "boring."

It is almost as if no one bothers to research their cruise, and then are surprised at the demographics and table arrangements.
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Aug 18th, 2003, 01:01 PM
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Sorry to hear about all those who have not enjoyed their tablemates while cruising. My husband and I really lucked out. While cruising on Carnival Spirit in Jan. '03 we were seated with a family from Kentucky (we're Canadian.) We had an absolutely wonderful time. Only sad part was knowing we'd never meet them again. Whats the problem with eating with strangers? You're on a ship with several hundred strangers. Relax and enjoy instead of judging their table manners. We found everyone friendly and it was a great learning experience.
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Aug 25th, 2003, 07:07 AM
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Wow. This sure is an interesting thread! I guess I have been very fortunate in having some very interesting and nice (and some not so nice) tablemates. One of the most interesting and fun "couples" was a very handsome young man who just happened to be a male stripper and was accompanied by his gay counterpart. They sure made for a lively table. One of the "not so nice" experiences were two quite wealthy couples I believe who were extremely rude, cheap, and very very dull. I have met so many interesting people and I always suggest sitting at a table for eight. Now that I am much wiser, if I was seated at a table with rude and dull people I sure would move heaven and earth to get seated at another table. Have just booked two more cruises for 2003 and 2004 so hope I will meet some more interesting folks!
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Aug 27th, 2003, 05:43 PM
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We've been on 12 cruises over the last 12 years- all kinds of ships and people. I guess we've just been lucky about our tablemates, but then, we like to meet new people and usually enjoy them.
We have asked for a different table twice. The first time, the waiter and his assistant were late, slow and not friendly or interested in what they were doing. We very tactfully asked for another table and station and that was it - no problem at all. The last time, was our last cruise. We had gone for 1st seating for the 1st time. We were seated with 6 other people about our own age who were grouchy and picky and complained about the whole meal. We went to Personal Choice (were on Princess) and loved it. In October we will be on Celebrity and expect to have congenial and interesting people to talk to at our table. If we don't, we will make other arrangements.
I can't imagine why anyone who doesn't love to cruise is even reading this forum, let alone posting to it!
If you are reading this, and thinking about cruising, don't listen to people who don't even DO IT!
We've stayed in the tiny little rooms and in the mini-suites with balconies and never had a *bad* cruise on any ship.
Remember, you take yourself wherever you go. If you complain and are miserable at home, you will be just the same way on a cruise! But I sure hope you aren't at MY table, because then I will have to change tables!
A good rule for dining is NOT to discuss politics nor religion, just like our parents told us. Also it is good not to expect everyone to be like you are and to have the same opinions. Enjoy the differences - both in the travel and food and in the people.
Happy travels!
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Sep 10th, 2003, 06:22 AM
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There is such a variety of people out there that is is unlikely a specific person will connect with their table mates.

I always felt that making small talk with the same assigned strangers was difficult and painful on cruise ships and ruined the time we had. I enjoy small talk with strangers on the ship in small controlled measures.
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Sep 12th, 2003, 07:22 AM
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I had a jackass guy at my table...we had just returned from Labadee, and I was telling my tablemates about how beautiful the Haitian art was. I told them I went to the crafts market and didn't have the heart to nickel and dime the vendors to death, given how desperately poor that country is...and since I am blessed to have some spare money thanks to my divorce settlement, I felt good giving those wonderful artists a little extra money for their work and not being the Ugly American.

His reply? "I saw one of those Haitian musicians pull a huge wad of cash out of his pocket on the beach. I am sure they aren't as poor as they seem, and they all drive Mercedes! I am sure they are doing better than we are, in fact."

I couldn't address his ignorance while maintaining my dignity, but needless to say my family and I ate dinner at the buffet for the rest of the trip! Quite happily, I might add.

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Sep 16th, 2003, 03:57 PM
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I remember a Greek Island cruise in which I had a stuffy, rude couple from Salt Lake city and a friendly, wonderful couple from New Jersey as tablemates. The New Jersey couple and I just "talked smack" about the Salt Lake couple whenever they would leave the table. We didn't let grouchy snobs spoil our time. Maybe we acted immature, but do you think we cared?
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Sep 17th, 2003, 12:49 PM
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Hi we never talk a table for more then 4 that's myself wife amd 2 teens . We just got off the Zuiderdam .It was our 59th cruise we had a great time !! Now about the seating . We have been cruising for 23 years ,the first cruise was on Home Linnes Oceanic back in 1980,. The few time we did set with others at our table just didn"t work out .But when we go with friends and family we allways sit with them and have a ball !! I just can't see us sitting at a table with others .When you have nothing to talk about for the cruise !! . The first thing i do when we get on the ship is to see where the table is and if it's a table for four !! Don't get me wrong we love sitting by the pool meeting new people and latter that night meeting them for drinks .To each his own .
Mr Veendam
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Sep 22nd, 2003, 09:19 AM
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Guess those that hate cruising have never been to a resort where the food stunk, or the service was lousy or their room smelled or the beach was rocky....they just hang out in the cruise topic area to expouse their point of view.
43 cruises....and been lucky so far. Only once had to ask for a table change...a $20 bill took care of a resisting Maitre D'.
Love a large table, doesn't matter where you are from, differences can make for great conversations!
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Sep 28th, 2003, 05:17 PM
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Amen to Brahmama!!

So sorry to read about your bad cruise experience but don't think that all of them are like that.

We will be taking our 19th cruise this Feb. We've had just a couple of times where we asked to be moved to another table. And the situation wasn't too extreme like yours was.
Like someone mentioned on one of the posts, there are some ships that have Personal Dining and we think it's great, sitting at a different table and meeting new people every night.
We've never had a bad experience with Personal Dining. Even if you had someone at the table that you didn't particularly care for, the next night you wouldn't be sitting with them.

With all the complaining that some of the people on this post did, I'm sure glad they haven't sat at my table.

We love cruising and plan on continuing doing it til we can't do it anymore.

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Oct 6th, 2003, 09:27 AM
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Why not ask for a different table? My mom and we have never had any trouble with our tablemates. We would not let the other tablemates force us into eating in our stateroom for the entire cruise.
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Oct 8th, 2003, 11:12 AM
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My husband and I had a similar experience and we asked for a new table. Once reassigned, the situation was even worse. You could cut the tension with a knife. Everyone took an intant disliking to each other.

To me relationships take time and people are so different. The chance that one would enjoy total stangers thrown together for the first time every day for a week or longer, is small.

I suggest open seating cruise lines.
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