girlonthego-I totally agree with you on the fact that if you are a stay at home mom..you tend to be taking for granted.

I am a homemaker whos husband is a very busy Electrical contractor who goes out of town ALOT.So even when he is home..the kids come to me because they are so used to me being there.We have 3 boys age 10,7 and 2.:s-
I help my husband also with the business so I guess I do have a job and do all the house and most of the yardwork.It really makes you long for a nice get away that is quiet.:)
I think that when we go to StJohn next month..I will find that quiet spot for a couple of hours..by myself.
You are right..we all need to feel appreciated.

Funny enough Christie I have never thought of a getaway by myself until reading this thread! Frustrated moms unite!!!LOL.. I help my husband with his business also so I can relate.(The job without pay..ha ha..)
I can't complain. MY life is good and I am very fortunate. I think we all just need a break.
Hopefully storygirl has found her getaway!

Yes girlonthego you are right..the job without pay.I can't complain either.Just need a break to recoop LOL.

It seems that when one kid is not listening...they all are not (especially the 2 yo.)I get a few hours on Mon.,Wed and Fri. when he goes to preschool.Just waiting to relax in the sun by the beach! ((R))
Take care

So, where did you end up going?

OK -- count me in with the other stressed out moms who want to come along. We should start a mom-beach-margarita group.

If you want to travel alone you want to mix safety with the opportunity to talk to fellow travellers. I suggest a resort not geared toward families, but not too isolated either. I have only travelled alone to Playa del Carmen in Mexico, which turned out to be an excellent choice. Of your possible choices, I have only been to St. Thomas, and that was just passing through to St. John. St. Thomas is a big, busy island with lots of cruise ships, an Office Depot and Kmart, and all the fast food places you can think of. Puerto Rico is also close and has a bit more character. What a dilemma to have!

No kids but s/o he drives me absolutely crazy at times. Love him dearly but.... I'm content with something simple, although if I had the money throw in a daily massage, skin and facial treatments, a little aroma therapy for GP great meals and throw in a little night life to flirt. Does wonders for the ego. Especially those of us a tad over 50.

You might enjoy the pleasures of a solo getaway with full customized spa services at OASIS - THE SPA on Jamaica's South Coast/see jamaicaescapes.com /inquire on pricing for one.

Everyone storygirl has probably already gone on her trip being that this post was started in April.:)
I wonder where she ended up going?

Yes. I am very interested in whether Storygirl got her groove back.

mm

Hi..mm how are you?All is good here.Hopefully storygirl got some R&R in a nice place. :S-

Christie, you always get me thinking. What if someome put together a "Stressed Mom" convention and held it in a different place every year? Maybe even twice a year, then you have 2 chances to go to a great destination, have safety in numbers without going with someone who's probably causing you stress, maybe go with some girlfriends and meet new friends? Or just be in an environment where you don't have to explain yourself because people around you know how you feel? The gal in the next lounge chair knows exactly how wonderful it is just to sit there with a cocktail and not have to answer to anyone for 3 days. God know the tourism industry would love it. You'd have to keep them short, though. Those nitwits can't live without us for more than 3 days.

I'd definitely consider name time and place. The tourist industry would make a bundle.
Last yr went to Hershey Park PA for 2 days and had myself pampered at the spa. Took 2 of my nieces 18/21. We all loved it. Chocolate everywhere. Not the Caribbean but beautiful gardens. Excellent R&R location. I wanted to stay an extra day. Girls were bored and ready to go home after the 2 days. Not enough action for young adults, but boy could I have used another day.

Tuxedo:
LOL you are exactly right.We could not be gone for long...all he-- would break lose!!Good idea...if you get this idea started let me know please..sounds good!BTW..what is your name so I don't have to always say Tuxedo cat??

Yeah, if you can pull this off please let me know. I am sure that all the stressed out Mom's could benefit from the presence of a completely relaxed, vibrant, virile, amusing, and intelligent male. If not, then maybe I could come along.

;-)

mm

i go on a yearly trip with girls only - no kids, no husbands. We go to the bahamas or cancun.... it is much needed!!! we come back stress free!!

Hey girls:

I'm in agreement, a little R&R alone is really a nice treat! I wonder if storygirl took her trip. I hope so.

I took mine back in 2000. A quick birthday to Paradise Island. Stayed at the Holiday Inn Sunspree and had a blast. At the time I was looking for something different and signed up with the "People to People" program. Everyone met at the Govenor's House for tea. I ended up being paired off with a bunch of students learning how to drive a ferry. What fun we had trying to back this thing up on the dock! Went swimming with the rays the next day and the guys that work there got to chatting me up. Some ladies I met on the boat on the way over, asked if they could be my "cousins" and we all ended up going snorkling with the rays for free!

That night while trollling thru the Atlantis I met the comedian Tommy Davidson. Told him it was my Birthday and whala....a Goodfellas moment! He set up a table & chair in the Comedy club for me and escorted me to my seat. Had a blast, free.

On my way back to the hotel I spotted a brochure on Island hopping. Called the tour and the next day I was at the airport catching a 9 passenger sea plane on my way to Eleuthera. Landing in the water was a once in a lifetime experience and jumping on a golf cart to tour the island was another.

I procedeed to have lunch, snorkle lounge and go horseback riding before rushing back to the pier to catch the plane back to Nassau.

I say all that to say, even though I was alone, I really was lucky enough to have a terrific time. And even though I don't travel alone anymore, the adventure always brings a smile to my face. So mom's get out there even if it's just a day trip!

Wow, it seems there's really a market niche or whatever you want to call it for this sort of thing. Wasn't there a travel agent/ former travel agent on this board? Christie: it's Mae.

Tuxedocat,

I'd say that there are probably quite a few travel agents who post here. Some are a little more discreet than others ;-) !

It was your idea and it's a great one. Market the idea yourself and add some extras to your new home in St. John :-) !

Marion

Mae:
Thanks for letting me know your name.I feel funny always saying Tuxedocat.It just sounds better using names.;)

My husband mentioned that on our next trip to St John..he is going to try and track down the builder he talked to and other builders to see if he could get good enough work for it to be worth us moving there sometime.We met him at the Gecko Gazebo so we are going to go there are give the bartender my husbands business card and maybe we will have some luck.He also wants to check out some houses being built to see what kind of code seems to be required in St John.We will see what happens.

Christie: Do you guys remember the builder's first name? Description? Anyway, tell your husband that the building code is close if not exactly like the North Carolina Hurricane Building Code. I think that's what it's called. Back in 1996, there was a really bad hurricane, and alot of the more flimsey structures were destroyed, so the government adopted a very stringent code. It's hard to even get your building insured if it is not masonry built with concrete, cinder block, etc. That wouldn't really effect your husband's electrical work too much. It's really about what it takes to get licensed. It is probably convoluted like the permit process, but worth it. Are you guys going back soon?