Anyone feel up to pathetically reassuring a gal?
 

Hey again everyone. As my departure date nears (Jan.13th) it is becoming increasingly difficult to not "live the experience" before it happens, because clearly from this point of view of being cozy and at home for Christmas, the though of taking off for months of supposed solitude and frameless trekking in an unknown land is a bit fear inducing. If anyone with any experience as a lone traveler feels up to giving me an exciting pep talk I would be ever so grateful. Feel free to email me at [email protected] or IM me at the same!

I have traveled tons before, and mostly alone, but this time of my life finds me utilising this sort of trip as a temporary "way out" of my current situation. Extreme to most who surround me, but I know you all, my nomadic bretheren, will understand.

Sorry for the whinge fest!!
xo
Kat

There have been lots of questions about solo travel here. You might start by doing a search. I've traveled solo many times.

When I read your post, it seems the real issue is that you are using it as a "temporary "way out" of [your] current situation." This is what has been termed a geographical cure. Typically, it doesn't work. Take care of business before you leave, then enjoy your travels.

I have sent you an email Kat.

Jackie

Kat
I've done lots of solo travel myself. I'm in my early 60s right now. My first big trip, solo to Australia for 5 weeks, back in 1988, was one of the most empowering experiences of my life. I left my hubby and son (not a young child by then) at home and took off to explore on my own, halfway around the world. It was scary... but, so empowering. You prove a lot to yourself by doing something like this.

(I, on the other hand, was not escaping a situation... listen to Kathie... take care of things so you can leave with clear conscience so you can enjoy yourself)

Kat - we used to have a Solo Traveler board on Fodors, but now you'll find the solo traveler posts on the Smart Travel Tips board - several of us there.

I've done a lot of solo travel the last few years, and enjoyed it. However, I have to agree with Kathie that it may not work as an escape: some problems will travel with you, and others will still be there when you get back.

Escape, I agree, is pointless. The problem can just end up to be another piece of baggage you carry along.

But a DIVERSION can sometimes give time, space and, most importantly, some new memories to place between the original event and the now. Ain't nothing wrong with that.

PLUS when you travel alone you are forced to live entirely in the moment. That can be a relief.

Go read NYwoman's recent trip reports. She's just had a great trip solo. It's the only way to go, as far as I'm concerned.