not beachy, but perhaps you'll consider...
barcelona-highly romantic, cultural, and the food is stellar.
amsterdam-cute, intimate, quirky, a great deal of international food selection (falafel, indonesian, argentinian, etc...
ireland-all about the people and scenery, (think castle for the proposal?) it will the mid to low season then, so affordable, etc...

i should add we went to amsterdam on honeymoon, and enjoyed it immensely.
though this are "city" type vacations i've suggested, very easy to go off the beaten path, and certainly not touristy in the resort kind of way. the weather will be fair in the places i've suggested, perhaps a little rain in ireland which goes without saying. let me know what you think.

Personally, I'd take her to Paris - the City of Lights is second to none for romance and great food but it certainly wouldn't meet your definition of "undiscovered".

For something closer to what you are seeking check out the Four Seasons Resort Costa Rica (www.fourseasons.com/costarica/) - lots of tropical rain forests, beaches, spa, off the beaten trail and you can fly to Costa rica in about 4 hours from DFW.

You know, Bocas Del Toro, Panama might fit your bill. You'll get an area that is not commercial, laid-back beautiful atmosphere, a few spa-like hotels that are beachfront and surrounded by jungle, etc.

Also - there is a Four Seasons in Peninsula Papagayo, Costa Rica.

Otherwise, I'd vote the Seychelles.

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great input here guys. Thanks. I'm going to research a little to narrow things down. I'll let y'all know what we decide.

I would like to add that one of the things that really piqued our interest about Thailand was the culinary experience. The hotel we decided on offered a one day cooking class which involved buying local fresh ingredients from he market then cooking them later that evening. We both love to cook. Any one know of a places thats been mentioned that we could find a similar experience? Buying local and learning to cook the local cuisine?

I think it sounds like you are describing the Mayan Riviera of Mexico. It's very close for you. And offers the mix of luxury options and adventure (ruins, etc.).

5 days is a VERY short trip, I can't imagine going all the way to Thailand for such a short time!

Someone on another forum recommended:
"If you're looking for something really cool that you'll never forget, you should DEFINITELY check out the Costa Rica Tree House Lodge. The tree house, a small eco lodge has 4 houses on the ocean front - AWESOME! Check it out - http://www.costaricatreehouse.com/"

This seens like it is exactly what I'm looking for and will probably be the place we go. The only issue is the 4-5hr drive from San Jose' and It doesn't have the SPA, so I imagine we will do 3 nights here, then head to some luxury spa hotel in Honduras, Nicaragua, Panama, Belize or DR. I know I said undiscovered destination but i'd certainly settle for a short stay at an "off the beaten path" hotel/lodge at a popular vacation destination then another few nights at the luxe spa she'd like .

Any one else know of another lodge similar to the Tree House Lodge (http://www.costaricatreehouse.com/)? What we like here is real local culture near by, unique lodging tucked into the jungle with native wildlife roaming the grounds and the private beaches.


re: suze : "5 days is a VERY short trip, I can't imagine going all the way to Thailand for such a short time!"
5 would be the minimum stay at the destination not including the travel days. She has a 2yr old child so we can't stay gone as long as we'd like.

Sure I understand a time constraint, I'm only suggesting somewhere closer (and without a long drive from the airport upon arrival) would maximize your time *being* on your honeymoon, instead of getting there!

Once you open up your question to all those other countries there's loads of possibilities.

another small suggestion... I you haven't yet, repost your question over on Mexico & Central America, South America, and Caribbean forums here at Fodors (see "change forum" in blue). A lot more people read those and can give you more suggestions (this "Travel Tips" branch doesn't get a lot of traffic).

Thanks for the tips SUze. I've taken your advice and posted this in the Mexico & central america forum. We can consider this post closed.
new post: http://www.fodors.com/community/mexico-central-america/looking-for-undiscoveredoff-the-beaten-path-spot-to-pop-the-question.cfm

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