That clothes thing!
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That clothes thing!
I've recently seen for myself the effect of clothes and restaurants.
I went to a recommended Venetian restaurant in the evening with my husband, We were not dolled up, but I was wearing a dress and jacket and he was wearing a nice dark shirt (no collar and tie). All the tables seemed to have names on them, but I asked in Italian if they could find us a table. They could.
As we sat there, another couple came along in classic tourist gear. The head waiter pointed apologetically to all the "booked" tables and said that they were completely booked up for the evening.
Next, a well-dressed young English couple came along without a reservation and a table was miraculously found for them!
Most of the tables filled up with people who really had booked, but it was interesting that the waiter was able to turn people away without causing offence.
I went to a recommended Venetian restaurant in the evening with my husband, We were not dolled up, but I was wearing a dress and jacket and he was wearing a nice dark shirt (no collar and tie). All the tables seemed to have names on them, but I asked in Italian if they could find us a table. They could.
As we sat there, another couple came along in classic tourist gear. The head waiter pointed apologetically to all the "booked" tables and said that they were completely booked up for the evening.
Next, a well-dressed young English couple came along without a reservation and a table was miraculously found for them!
Most of the tables filled up with people who really had booked, but it was interesting that the waiter was able to turn people away without causing offence.
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My experience has been the same. Not just in Europe. Try walking up to a cosmetics counter in your local department store. I always get much better service if I'm in work or dress clothes as opposed to my "Saturday" clothes.
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My experience has been the same. I get much better service wearing my dress sweatshirt and dark gym pants than my
"saturday" jogging suit.
Taking a bath also helps get you in the real snotty places.
"saturday" jogging suit.
Taking a bath also helps get you in the real snotty places.
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I've had very similar things happen also, and I'm not sure this is all about clothes. When a place has reserved on all the tables and is able to produce a table for one couple but not another it could be a variety of reasons including general "profiling" -- do these people look like they will spend money? Do they look like they're tired and just want to sit? And I won't even get into the nationality issues. Etc.
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I'm not at all surprised by this, Sylvia, and it makes perfect sense, however I agree with Patrick that there is sometimes more to it.
Have you ever noticed that wealthy people often look like they have money even when they are dressed casually? Haircut? Jewelry? Shoes? Attitude? Facelifts? There is a certain je ne sais quoi that I'll bet a maitre d in an expensive European restaurant can smell a mile away.
Have you ever noticed that wealthy people often look like they have money even when they are dressed casually? Haircut? Jewelry? Shoes? Attitude? Facelifts? There is a certain je ne sais quoi that I'll bet a maitre d in an expensive European restaurant can smell a mile away.
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I used to ride cross country and one day, after a particularly intense ride on muddy trails, followed by an hour of mucking manure, I stopped at Saks to pick something up from the cosmetics counter. I was still wearing breeches and boots and I suspect I smelled unlike any scent you can find at Saks.
The first salesgirl wouldn't give me the time of day. The second, however, was all over me. "Oh, do you ride? What kind of horse do you have?" She was amazingly obsequious to someone who probably still had a hint of eau de manure clinging to her boots.
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Interestingly, we found that wearing boat shoes to places that are known for their marina scene can get you into places that otherwise would not look at you.
After all, that scruffy looking slob might own the 75-footer at the dock.
After all, that scruffy looking slob might own the 75-footer at the dock.
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I know there are a lot of these clothing questions and that from many points of view they can be taken as superficial. I know you regulars have had it up to here with them. Still...
That old adage "clothes make the man" does still apply in cities especially.
I've been wanting to ask this question but hated to post it, so since this is a clothing thread here goes.
Are black boots with rather chunky heals fashionable in Paris? I have some I can walk in miles with but truthfully I like to look good on the street.
I have worn my black tennis shoes in cities before to tour comfortably but I don't like to look like a slob. I travel light and don't like to take two pair.
Sylvia, your comment makes perfect snese to me.
I won't be offended if no one answers this or even makes a snippy reply.
That old adage "clothes make the man" does still apply in cities especially.
I've been wanting to ask this question but hated to post it, so since this is a clothing thread here goes.
Are black boots with rather chunky heals fashionable in Paris? I have some I can walk in miles with but truthfully I like to look good on the street.
I have worn my black tennis shoes in cities before to tour comfortably but I don't like to look like a slob. I travel light and don't like to take two pair.
Sylvia, your comment makes perfect snese to me.
I won't be offended if no one answers this or even makes a snippy reply.
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cymbeline, the one strong thought I have is "take another pair of shoes". I learned the hard way on a quick flight to LA. Do not know what happened but the heal on my boot broke off! Oh that was fun indeed. Did have another pair with me but in checked luggage so there I was in the airport, walking to gate and this happened. A very dear older man (employee - janitor I think) had me wait, took my boot and heel "somewhere" and glued it on for me. That lasted until I landed, thank goodness. Was on a real tight schedule so without the other pair in my luggage it would have been a BIG problem.
About the style or not in Paris, sure someone else here can advise you.
About the style or not in Paris, sure someone else here can advise you.
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Whoa! I hope that is not one of our regular posters Which one would it be ?
Degas, I seem to remember being in certain cities where they might not know you from a "native" if you take less baths
Degas, I seem to remember being in certain cities where they might not know you from a "native" if you take less baths
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Scarlett, assuming a natural aroma is a great way to blend in with the locals - especially in france where going without a bath for four days will usually do the trick if you mix it with long walks and no rightguard!
In a situation as Sylvia described, I usually just plop my huge butt down and call the sissy-boy waiter over.
Its thier problem about re-arranging the little cards on the tables.
I'm hungry and don't have time for silly games. They have food and I will have it or there will be hell to pay!
If they act superior or pitch a hissy-fit, I walk back into the kitcken and give my order directly to the cook in a loud and firm voice slightly tinged with malice. Slamming a few pots and pans around usually ensures faster service.
In a situation as Sylvia described, I usually just plop my huge butt down and call the sissy-boy waiter over.
Its thier problem about re-arranging the little cards on the tables.
I'm hungry and don't have time for silly games. They have food and I will have it or there will be hell to pay!
If they act superior or pitch a hissy-fit, I walk back into the kitcken and give my order directly to the cook in a loud and firm voice slightly tinged with malice. Slamming a few pots and pans around usually ensures faster service.
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I live in Silicon Valley. It is filled with kids and adults wearing bad clothing. So I wear a suit and tie. When I go into any shop I get great service. They believe I own some company as they never see anyone dressed well anymore. Works great here and better in Europe! I think the "dress ugly" phase may be coming to an end soon. Bout time!
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I really don't care what people wear if they are nice and fun but I do notice when Floridians visit here, they were brighter colors/prints than we in the East.Now I like prints but what I like are the old small turn ogf the century ones, you never see anymore. Glad to see seersucker is back EVEN in JIL SANDERS collection. Our house fashion Director poo-pooed it but I have a male friend who wears the most attractive seersucker shirts in summer that cost $250 but he gets a 50% discount where he works.