Teetotalers in France

I would stick to water with meals - the taste of a soda is so strong that it would ruin the taste of a good meal.

AFAIK, vineyards in France grow grapes and make wine, not olive oil.

No waiter will even notice if you drink wine or not. I would stick with water. The thought of sweet sugary soda with fine food does not appeal to me at all.Sodas are also more expensive than wine. Even tap water is a better choice. Do not expect to get your tea with your meal however, now that is a sacrilege.

I'd certainly visit a winery or 2. The process is interesting and no one will worry if you pass up the samplings.

hi shari,

DH and i spent two weeks in france and while i'm not a teetotaler, i'm not a drinker. i didn't have a single alcoholic drink while in paris and had no strange looks from waiters/waitresses. asking for a "carafe d'eau" was not a problem ... not sure about soda (i don't drink carbonated bevvies). i really don't think not drinking wine is a problem. also, definitely go to a winery if you're interested in it!

I total tee myself, with nary a problem anywhere (except maybe at those college parties where people looked at me strangely, but that was many years ago). In Paris, I drink tap water (ask for a carafe d'eau) or sparkling water. I have been known to drink soda with my meals at times, and I have noticed plenty of other people doing the same. This thing about French people not drinking Coke (or, as I prefer Coca Light), is way overblown.

50% of the French do not drink a drop of alcohol.

Is that really true, Kerouac?

Absolutely true. Just goes to show how stereotypes can mask reality.

Maybe only 50% of the French drink wine it is true the French drink an average of 280 glasses per year which is 4 times as much wine as Americans do.

Remember you can order your food how you'd like it in Paris but the chef will decide what you'll get.

Kerouac - does that 50% number include children? The WHO reported only 12% of male adults and 16% for adult females to be "abstainers". They cite two other surveys putting the rates at 13% and 27% for men and women, and 7.3% and 11.1%, again for men and women. The last number includes a very wide age range that even includes people as young as 12.

Here is a link to the WHO's alcohol consumption profiles by country.

http://tinyurl.com/psjfdx

One thing to note is that, while the French drink much more wine than Americans, they drink less beer and spirits. Also, the French and Italians have seen relatively large decreases in alcohol consumption and a shift away from wine to other drinks in recent years.

Another nonalcoholic option is "citron pressé" - squeezed lemon juice, served with water and sugar. It is a good option when sitting in a café.

Travelgourmet's link to the WHO reports is most interesting - it is fascinating to see how consumption has declined in France. IMO, the reason was the legislation on driving under influence (same happened in other European countries, but not so sharp as in France).

I agree with traveller1959 that to large measure, the drop in alcohol consumption in France relates to a very strict interpretation of what defines driving while drunk (.05% blood alcohol count). The French has all but abandoned the digestif (liqueur at the end of the meal). The law has rigid enforcement and police checkpoints can be found at any time on any road - particularly upon those where you would not expect them.

Drinking only water at dinner will not be noticed in a restaurant. Asking for sugary drinks during the course of a meal will be noticed if you are dinning in a restaurant. At a café or brasserie, people drink a wider range of choices. The posters reference to tea might be "iced tea" which has become widely available in summer months in France. However, French iced tea will likely be peach flavored and sweet and is not typically served at mealtime in a restaurant.

There may be a few wineries which engage in olive oil production but they would be found in the south of France (perhaps Cotes du Rhone). Burgundy is not sufficiently hot for olives which is why cool weather grapes do so well there - pinot noir for example.

Generally there are other considerations for restaurant dinning which are more important than what one drinks. Reserving, avoiding special requests and substitutions, or not asking for a "doggie bag" are but a few.

Makes no difference at all to the waiter. MANY drink the carafe of tap water,(une carafe d'eau as mentioned above) or bottle of water. We've never had a problem and never felt we were "different or odd". Same in Italy etc !
Maybe you wouldn't want to ask for a soda in a restaurant.... expensive and not usually ordered by the "locals'. IF you are craving an iced tea (or coke) you can always pop into a McDonalds in the afternoon for an "iced tea break, a seat to rest tired feet, and a good restroom! (but don't count on a lot of ice in your drink), though as mentioned above, that trend seems to be changing in FRance in the summer months.)
The trip to Burgundy should be very intersting,,,,even if you don't drink the wine!

I've noticed more and more carafes of water on tables--I sense a slight backlash against bottled water or it's the economy or maybe they've just always been there and I notice them more because I am drinking ever so slightly less wine. I also think I read it was obligatoire to serve water if asked. Kerouac, is that correct?

I drink Badoit some, which is fizzy but not as fizzy as Perrier. I think I read somewhere the French don't as a rule drink fizzy water with meals but I am sure the French don't care what I do.

Funny little story--years ago we got on to Lillet which is a light citrus aperitif. We stopped in a little side street cafe on the Ile St Louis as we were early for our dinner reservation. I asked for "Lillet, svp," the waiter asked me to repeat it once, then said "Ah, oui," smiled and served me a glass of milk! That about sums up my French accent!

I am also a "teatotaler" and have never had a problem in France drinking only water during meals. You should ask for a "carafe d'eau" in order to get a free carafe of tap water. If you simply ask for l'eau you may be asked "gaseous (sparking) or non-gaseuos (spelling awful)", the waiter will bring you a bottle of water and you will be charged for it.

You don't have to sample the wine but you can always take a tour of the wineries to see the process and learn about the culture of wine making in France. Just to see how passionate the vintners were about their vines and their land and the love they put into the wine they produce. It give a unique look at an important part of French culture. I found these tours to be fascinating.

I leave in 5 weeks to spend 3 weeks following the Tour de France, so it's countdown time for me now YAAAAY!!

Enjoy your trip to France.

Travelgourmet, I saw that some statistical institutes consider that anyone who has drunk a drop of alcohol in the past year is a drinker. By those rules, I'm sure that 80% of the French can be considered to drink, because it is almost impossible to avoid a glass of champagne at least once a year, even if you hate the stuff like I do. The current president of France considers himself to be a teetotaler, yet he has to dip his lips into the edge of a glass at numerous state events.

Regarding people who consume alcohol on a DAILY basis in France, it depends a lot on the age group, and the latest statistics are eloquent:
ages 20-25 : 5.1% of men and 0.8% of women
ages 65-75 : 56.2% of men and 22.9% of women

Between 1961 and 2003, alcohol consumption dropped 47.5% in France. I would say that most stereotypes that people have about various countries are about 40 years out of date. I know a lot of Americans coming to France still expect the French police to be wearing a képi, for example.

Cathinjoetown, it's true that any eating establishment must serve you tap water if that's what you want as a customer. There is a tradition (but it is not a law, as many of the French believe) never to refuse a glass of water free of charge to anyone who comes in off the street and asks for one. However, in recent years, I have noticed that the people who do that (usually gypsies or homeless) prefer to go into a McDonald's to get a cup of water, because it gives them a begging tool as well.

Badoit is considered to be a "meal" water, and that is how it is advertised on television -- showing people drinking it with their meals in restaurants or at home. Badoit has come out with a violently fizzy version a red bottle to compete with the violence of Perrier, and Perrier has come out with a delicately fizzy version in a blue bottle to compete with Badoit.

I have some good news for people dying of thirst on the streets of Paris. The ubiquitous 'sanisettes' (the automatic free toilets out on the street) are being replaced by a new bigger model, which also comes equipped with a drinking fountain on the back side. I have not yet seen any of the new ones in service, but they are almost ready around Les Halles, and they have also just removed the old ones near my office in the 8th arrondissement -- I expect the new models to arrive next week.

IME, no one will bat an eye if you just order water or Badoit (or Pellegrino, which seems to be very popular in the south of France) and eschew wine. But ordering a soda with a meal, to me, defies the whole purpose of eating decent food.

Nobody really cares what you drink, believe me. Order what you want, don't order based on what you think will impress a waiter. Why do you possibly care what kind of look a waiter gives to you?

I rarely ever drink soda, but the thought of "pop" (which I presume is what you mean by soda, not carbonated water -- but if that is what you want, that is very common, like Perrier) with dinner turns my stomach. Having said that, I have seen French people drink Cokes with dinner in Paris (adults as well as children), much to my surprise, actually -- in some small restaurants/bistros that I frequent in less touristy parts of Paris in the outer arrondisements. These are just regular neighborhood folks.

But really what other people like or don't like is irrelevant -- if you love Coke with dinner, order it. It's not cheap, however, and tap water is free, obviously.

Cathinjoetown, another Lillet story: recently in Lyon we were talking with French friends about aperitives, and I mentioned that I liked Lillet. They had never heard of it. Although it is known here in the US, I wonder if it is one of those regional drinks in France, like Pastis in Provence, etc. It comes from La Gironde area, I think, w/o going to my fridge to check out my bottle!

And last week here in Pgh. at an upscale restaurant, they didn't have it. Waiter was puzzled but the bartender knew of it and suggested Dubonnet instead.

I had never heard of Lillet either until I read about it on this site last year. I asked around in Paris and nobody had ever heard of it.

I would find the kind you like best and order bottled water... fizzy or flat... not "soda" (if you're talking Coke or something).

Not ordering wine is no problem, but especially in nicer restaurants I do think it is appropriate to order a beverage you pay for.

I usually have a Littet in Paris. We picked up a bottle once in the Monoprix but I prefer Suze that is unavailable here.
Lillet comes in both red and white.
Pastis is available all over France. It is the generic name for the anise flavored drinks like Ricard, Pernod, and a dozen others.
Yes about some French not drinking wine. I have a young male musician friend and remember the first time out dining, I was surprised to hear him say, he does not drink wine.
But he will drink Genepi that he and his family makes from the herbs growing near there vacation home in Haute Provence.

My grandmother, who lived in Paris in the 20's, and had a grand ol' time, loved Lillet, white Lillet. So, I'm thinking it must be an old fashioned drink, that is currently out of favor. I enjoy it as well, much prefer it to Dubonnet, or vermouth. I do like to cook with white vermouth, though.

Dubonnet is considered to be extremely old fashioned as well, because Martini won the "vermouth battle". But at least people still know what Dubonnet is, and it remains available for the time being.

I hadn't thought about Lillet in years until I read this thread--now, of course, I want it NOW. When I was on one of my first business trips ever, in my 20s, a customer in New York ordered it and of course I thought it was the height of sophistication, not to mention very nice. I didn't know there was a red version. Memories....

We first heard of Lillet when my wife read Silence of the Lambs, and noted Hannibal Lechter served Clarice Starling "Lillet and a slice of orange over ice." She just had to have one, and we kept asking for Lillet in higher end restaurants.
The drink is really quite nice, and DW still orders them on occasion.

I agree with many of the responses here - if you will not be pairing the appropriate with your courses, then water (tap or bottled) is the way to go. No soda pop pairings!

I must confess that I find it funny to read all the praise for Lillet alongside such reflexive anti-soda comments. As Sandra Bernhard said about Lillet - "It's like an upscale Manischewitz." Personally, I would rather drink Coke.

As for Dubonnet, some may find it interesting that it is currently owned by an American company (Heaven Hill) and is currently produced in Kentucky. The company is famous for Evan Williams Bourbon.

I say drink what you want. Depending upon the food, I don't think it need be "ruined" by having a Coke with it. Some of the best food in the world (Low Country cuisine, Cajun and Creole, and BBQ) is traditionally served with sweet tea and the sugar doesn't seem to ruin those dishes. In Europe, there are plenty of sweet aperitifs. It really does come down to what you like. Personally, I've been known to drink an Orangina or Coke (never Pepsi) every now and then with a meal.

I cant believe what I'm reading about Lillet - I've ordered it all over France and never had anyone not know what I'm talking about. It's absolutely a traditional drink, known far and wide throughout the country.

St. Cirq,

Perhaps they are pronouncing it incorrectly. It's "lil-lay", not "lil-let", as one of our friends said to the waiter. He looked confused. When DW pronounces it that way in France we always get an instant, "Blanc o rouge, Madame?"

While everyone will be perfectly fine with getting a carafe d'eau in restaurants and cafes, some may think you odd. Two years ago we were out for lunch on the Armistice Day holiday in November.

At the table next to us, a woman and her mother were knocking back the couscous in a big way. She noticed we were not having wine and, horrified, offered us glasses from their bottle. When I explained that I was, sadly, diabetic and unable to drink wine at lunch, she had an explanation for my strange behavior -- "Ah, hygiene!" -- and was satisfied!

We also couldn't finish our couscour and did not order dessert, while the two of them had appetizers, couscous, and desserts along with their bottle of wine and a little digestif. The two of them together couldn't have weighed as much as I do!

I don't think anyone's suggesting Lillet for the OPs since they don't drink and it would be awful with food, IMO.

I just used the story about my bad pronunciation which led to receiving a glass of milk to illustrate that you can get served whatever you want to drink.

I do not drink and have never had a problem. If it is an inexpensive meal, I might have bottled water, if it is expensive, tap water is just fine. Not for sanitary reasons but because they are running a business.

" As Sandra Bernhard said about Lillet - "It's like an upscale Manischewitz." Personally, I would rather drink Coke."
So untrue, she should stick to comedy.
Lillet is an apertif, not something you drink ALONg with your meal.
I knew someone who drank coke in the AM after drinking too much the night before.

Well, yes, if you pronounce it incorrectly, as in lil-let, you might get something odd. Anyway, I would never drink Lillet WITH a meal. I think of it as an apéro.

Lillet is an apertif, not something you drink ALONg with your meal.

Have you ever had Manischewitz? It isn't exactly something one would choose to drink with their meal either.

Yes I have, an old aunt drank it but not with meals.
there the comparison ends.

As Manischewitz was the first wine people tried to get me to drink at a very young age, this is probably the reason I do not drink to this day.

What on earth is soda?

Any carbonated beverage is referred to as soda. But there are regional differences in the US; one poster above refers to pop, which is used in the midwest. When I moved to Boston, I was confused because people called it tonic.

To further confuse things, there is also soda water and tonic as specific varieties. But in the parts of the US where one would call all carbonated beverages soda, people usually mean drinks such as Coke, as opposed to soda water.

Ah, thank Nikki makes sense, I think of Soda as being carbonated tap water so all the sugary issues made no sense to me.

You will find some French drinking both white and red with carbonated water added.

Bilboburglar, what do people call sweet carbonated beverages where you live? Are you in the UK?

Fizzy drink - A carbonated beverage, typically a soda like Coca-Cola. Beware that in Britain “lemonade” refers to citrus-based carbonated beverages like Sprite or 7-Up. If you want American-style lemonade, ask for “still lemonade” or “flat lemonade”.

But there are regional differences in the US; one poster above refers to pop, which is used in the midwest. When I moved to Boston, I was confused because people called it tonic.

And in much of the South, all such drinks are referred to as Coke, so when you order a "Coke", you will be asked, "which kind?" It is perfectly acceptable to then answer, "Sprite". Under very few, if any circumstances, however, would it be acceptable to answer "Pepsi".

Tonic is fading out of use in Boston, though it still has its pockets, particularly in the sort of neighborhoods where you might buy it at the "spa".

This map shows the distribution of the various names in the US:

http://strangemaps.wordpress.com/2008/08/18/308-the-pop-vs-soda-map/

Yes to Uk, no idea as the idea of drinking fizzy sweet drinks does not have any interest to me. I had Pepsi once in Dominican Republic; never had Coke. I guess we would call them a "a fizzy drink", "a coke", "a lemonade" etc though I'm sure the kids call it something else.

I think a great man once said that the saddest question was "red or white?".

if you ask for a "lillet" in the UK, you'll get some funny looks [especially if you're a bloke] and may be directed to the nearest chemist! [google it to find out why!]

I see plenty of people drinking Coca-Cola with their meals in Parisian restaurants. Most but not all are tourists, but the main point is that if I wanted to drink Coke with a meal in Paris, it would not bother me one bit to order it (and it wouldn't bother the waiter or the other customers either).

Yes, you never hear tonic ANYMORE used in Boston but economics has forced us, Bostonians who lived downtown out and so it's populated with people who have migrated or could afford , but
you might still hear tonic in some districts like South Boston, though that is now changing and becoming an
affordable area (not for long1)

But can you still buy that tonic in Boston at the corner spa? I haven't noticed any of those in a long time.

I'm not sure I've seen a "spa" in Boston recently, but there are definitely still a few in Somerville, in the Winter Hill neighborhood. I think I've seen a couple in Medford, too.

You can certainly, however, still buy your tonic at the packie.

To avoid any confusion, when ordering non-alcoholic drinks here in France, it would probably be best to refer to the brand name. One slight difference is coca-cola, which is always just called "coca".

Roger

http://www.fermedecandeloup.fr

Where is ShariB?

travelgourmet...I, as a Quincy (kwinzee)native, must inform you that it's "Med-fidd", as in New Bedfidd, and it's also Wistah, Hahvidd and Summahville....(of course I've been a Californian for the past 52 years...so what do I know!(I sure miss my tonic, though!)

stu

shariB

I normally drink water, and occasionally a glass of wine while in Europe. On my last visit I noticed that a few restaurants served carafe d'eau in a truly nice bottle or pitcher (serving as a carafe)...we too are going to be in Burgundy this fall, where we haven't been in many years...you can bet that we'll visit several wineries. Enjoy your trip, and set aside your tee-totalling concerns!

stu

"Med-fidd", as in New Bedfidd, and it's also Wistah, Hahvidd and Summahville

Well, how else would one pronounce those places?

I've actually lived in Medford, Somerville, and Quincy in my day. Before moving to Europe, I most recently lived on Beacon Hill. I would think moving from Boston to Europe involves less culture shock than moving to California.

tg
Well, how else would one pronounce those places?

spoken like a true Brahmin...you're correct about moving from NE to California...even in 1957..but the shock only lasted a few weeks...quickly integrated, along with wife and our little ones ...(have also since been to "Cuber" and "Africer")
Whereabouts in Quinzy? I was born and brought up in the Point, between Quinzy "Squay-ah" and the "ship-yahd".
stu

tower - I lived a couple of blocks from Wollaston Beach. I really enjoyed living there. A real nice change from Medford/Somerville, especially during the summer - at least 10 degrees cooler.

tg
(we continue our hi-jacking...you made me do it!)
my parents later lived on Beal Street, not where it reached the beach, but just beyond Hancock. You rang my nostalgia bell, and made me hark back to my childhood when Wollaston Beach was the favorite local venue for all Quincyites during summer. The original Howard Johnson's was at the beach. He lived in Milton. After an army hitch I went to Emerson College and to BU for grad degree. My oldest granddaughter graduated Emerson in '05...and just got married to another Emersonian this past weekend, here in wine country (Santa Ynez). She loved her four years in Boston and ran the marathon three times...one of which we watched. BTW, Quincy, c.1904, appears in one of my recent books. The research was fascinating and iluminating.

stu