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Mother Hates Russia: How Can I Convince Her to Travel With Me?

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So, my mother left Moscow when she was 14 and says she has no intentions of ever going back to Russia. I started learning the language at university, and after 4 years of study I've decided I really want to go - it's a waste to study such a wonderful language and not get the chance to visit!

BUT she gets very angry every time I bring up the idea of a trip there, although I am very likely going to take a trip with my father to Ukraine (he's going for business) within the next year. She's freaks out about any idea of a trip for herself to both Ukraine & Russia, although she doesn't seem as against me and my dad going to Ukraine.

She's the one who is fluent in Russian and she could add so much more to the trip but she absolutely refuses to go to Russia: says it is dangerous (seriously), mafia will kidnap us or shoot us (only half-jokingly), there is nothing nice there anyway, etc etc.

I told her we can get a nice hotel & be completely sheltered from any ugliness in the city -- it's not like she's in a tiny apartment in Moscow anymore -- and we could even skip Moscow and just go for St Petersburg, still she won't budge. Yet I know she doesn't HATE Russia because we often have nice talks about culture, language, and fun events from her childhood, although every now and then she gets annoyed and starts going on about how we're in America now, she left Russia to get away from all that unpleasantness.

So this is a post bordering on the self-racist, but I would love to be able to travel to my mom's homeland with her, does anyone have any ideas? I know I could always go alone (and risk getting my family very angry!), but it would be so much nicer with her.

Let me know what you think!

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