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French direct/indirectness help?

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Hello there, I'm new here and I have a question regarding some possible cultural differences. I know very well this can be generally case by case basis, but there's a chance something I could miss as a whole, so any answer will be very appreciated.

The question is how diplomatic/direct French people are in saying no in general? I know French culture is pretty polite and there are certain indirectness/diplomatic ways in refusing something. I am just afraid I might be committing a cultural faux-pas/overstepping boundaries without knowing.

I will be travelling to Europe for 2 months and will stay in France for 7-10 days (mostly Paris and other places) before going to other countries.

The problem's background : Last year I worked with someone for 5 days and we become really good acquaintances. We kept in touch very occasionally, and around October last year I got news that I might be travelling to Europe (France + Germany) to attend some events. He offered his place for me to stay, which I graciously accepted and kept it in the back of my head, because I am used to couch-surfing.

Now a few months later the plans has been finalised (albeit very last minute) so I sent him an email to ask a few questions regarding the event (since he will be working there also), also asked if he could recommend decent inexpensive places for last-minute reservations (because I wasn't sure/was hesitant if I can ask directly if his offer still available). He said I could stay at his place if I want to, otherwise I can try a few places he suggested.

I'm an Indonesian and unfortunately we Indonesians can be quite indirect in saying no, so based on that I am just trying to avoid committing cultural travesty, considering I often read French people are very private and all things considered, we are not that close either.

For the record I have done this type of thing a few times in USA and Canada but I can understand if the culture is pretty different in Europe especially.

I am sorry if the question is quite strange, I am just concerned and would gladly just go and book a place, but would be great to understand more just in case for future interactions in general.

Thank you!!

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