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Destination wedding friends/family decline due to cost

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I want to start of with saying my wife and I had a destination wedding and had the time of our lives. So did the 36 friends and family who attended in Mexico. We had a much bigger turnout than anticipated so I should nt have anything to complain about.

But I feel bitter towards some friends and family members for how they declined the invitation.

We explained that we were completely understanding that not everyone will be able to attend so nobody would feel obligated to come and that we've hired a professional service that specializes in destination wedding to make travel planning as easy as possible. We gave our guests 2.5 years notice with an open invite to bring their friends along to make the most out of the trip. Which made it very affordable for people to slowly make payments people who never thought they could afford a vacation were able to attend. We were extremely accomodating.

I'm not bothered by the people who declined because they didn't want to travel or couldnt afford it.
There was 9 people who declined. All saying they couldn't afford it, then took separate vacations to the same city in Mexico or very close by. Some before my wedding and some just after. Some family even missed my local reception when I got back home because they were gone on vacation...


These were all people I used to feel very close to. Now I have no desire to even associate with these people.

The resort I chose was 5 stars and I subsided $200 of the cost for everyone. I know the resort I chose was a more affordable location than any of their trips because I receiced 2 free trips (1 trirp for every 15th person) and I also used that do reduce the price for everyone.

How am I suppose to maintain friendships with people who lied saying they really wish they could come if only they could afford it, then go on a separate more expensive vacation to an almost identical location?

Should I write off these people and move on and live my life without people like this ?

Or am I over reacting?

2 of the people were my my mother and brother

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