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November wedding in Kolkata: appropriate saree

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I am hoping that Fodorites who are familiar with wedding traditions in this part of India will be able to offer some assistance. I posted on that "other " forum but I find that posts there often get lost amid the touts.

We are travelling to India next month for a family wedding . DH is of Indian origin but I am not. We have been to India together before, this will be my third trip and DH has been there many times. The wedding is for close family and we have stayed with them before. They are lovely, non pretentious people.

There will be a number of function related to the wedding. I have decided to mix things up and to wear western clothes for some and a sari for some of the others

Here is my dilemma : I have inherited many beautiful silk sarees from my dear MIL who recently passed away. She had excellent taste and there are many traditional heavy silks. I had intended to wear a traditional peacock blue silk with a red and gold border. I just had a saree blouse made locally ( no time to do so once we get to India) and it looks beautiful with the saree. The boutique owner draped me and the colours are gorgeous. I asked her what she thought of the look for the Kolkata wedding. She asked a few questions about the family 's social level and whether festivities would be in 5 star hotels etc. when I gave her the details she hesitated and then told me that my saree was something that a much older woman might wear .

I suppose that is no surprise given that it belonged to my MIL who was in her 80's . It reflects her elegant, traditional taste. The boutique owner (she is from Dehli) suggested a softer silk with more bling. She selected a saree in tones of hot pink and red with a khundan stone type border. She said it was more youthful and reflective of current wedding fashions. It is beautiful and I have purchased it after some very hard bargaining. There will also be khundan stones on the cap sleeve of the saree blouse (low back). I love the colours and the softer drape but my MIL 's aversion to bling keeps echoing in my mind.

The boutique owner suggested the traditional saree for the sangeet and the sparkle for the wedding. I do not want to look out of place at either event.. There is really no one here in Canada that I can ask. Dear SIL saw a photo of the new saree and she thinks it "rocks". But she does not have her late mother's traditional taste.

Does any one have any thoughts or experience with dress at what I expect will be a high end wedding in Kolkata ? I like the bling but there is also beauty in the tradition of a heavy silk. I can always take a couple of extra saree blouses and borrow something from DH's cousin , ( no time to shop), but I would rather wear something of my own. Any thoughts?

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